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Bernardo de La Paz

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14. Change what you can (have surgery), accept what you can't change (results)

Reply to samplegirl (Original post)

Tue Oct 22, 2019, 06:54 AM

Oct 2019

... and have the wisdom to know the difference between the two.

You two have made the decision to have the surgery and it is scary. But you are changing what you can by electing surgery. You won't be able to change the result, but you will be able to change (influence) the recovery and progress going forward afterwards.

Also, imagine a bad outcome and what you would have to do and you will find the resilience within yourself.

You two are stronger than you realize and it will turn out better than your worst fears.

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Feeling overwhelmed and can't sleep [View all] samplegirl Oct 2019 OP

Calm yourself down vlyons Oct 2019 #1

I'll go back to this post samplegirl Oct 2019 #20

Hang on. I know it may sound trite but "breathe". Stop and just breathe. 7wo7rees Oct 2019 #2

Thank you samplegirl Oct 2019 #19

You will be amazed. I've been through surgeries with my husband and dreaded the post-op period... Frustratedlady Oct 2019 #3

Sometimes a distraction captain queeg Oct 2019 #4

I know lots of people who have had knee replacement surgery. royable Oct 2019 #5

Thank you Ived samplegirl Oct 2019 #21

Comfort foods for times like these. DUgosh Oct 2019 #35

Relaxing music helps me. mia Oct 2019 #6

Nice! FakeNoose Oct 2019 #12

Thank you samplegirl Oct 2019 #22

Your feelings are natural and what I will say may seem unhelpful, but whether through meditation or hlthe2b Oct 2019 #7

Thank you so much for your suggestions samplegirl Oct 2019 #24

Have you tried CBD for both you and your husband? mysteryowl Oct 2019 #8

No I have not samplegirl Oct 2019 #25

Get some sleep! Roy Rolling Oct 2019 #9

My mom use to say that samplegirl Oct 2019 #26

He'll be fine Rincewind Oct 2019 #10

I had a knee replacement 2 years ago. mnhtnbb Oct 2019 #11

We did downsize samplegirl Oct 2019 #28

It will be fine gerryatwork Oct 2019 #13

Change what you can (have surgery), accept what you can't change (results) Bernardo de La Paz Oct 2019 #14

That Serenity Prayer has been a part of my life since childhood when my Dad started the Atticus Oct 2019 #17

It's American zen. Bernardo de La Paz Oct 2019 #18

Your right! samplegirl Oct 2019 #33

Thanks dear Atticus samplegirl Oct 2019 #36

Will do our best! samplegirl Oct 2019 #29

My wife is about to go through the same surgery randr Oct 2019 #15

That was his damage samplegirl Oct 2019 #31

There are so many samplegirl Oct 2019 #34

They will do the procedure and his pain will be gone. That's why you're going through this. tinrobot Oct 2019 #16

Thank you samplegirl Oct 2019 #32

With regards to the knee ice machine Sherman A1 Oct 2019 #23

Remember that you have us here on DU, you are not alone & we are rooting for you & hubby. FM123 Oct 2019 #27

My sister had knee replacement surgery Ohiogal Oct 2019 #30

Thank you samplegirl Oct 2019 #37

So sorry to hear... just try to hang in there. Wishin you all the best. InAbLuEsTaTe Oct 2019 #38

we are here for you, samplegirl Skittles Oct 2019 #39

Thank you samplegirl Oct 2019 #40

Hey SampleGirl ChildOfTheFort Oct 2019 #41

My wife had the same surgery on one knee knowing she'd need to have the right one replaced too. VarryOn Oct 2019 #42

I am so sorry for how you are feeling sample girl, but just know that he will be so much smirkymonkey Oct 2019 #43

Thinking of you. Let us know how everything went. Fla Dem Oct 2019 #44

How did the surgery go, and how is the recovery going? n/t royable Nov 2019 #45