Mission impossible: feeding my husband. Helpful suggestions?

[pitohui]

65. hostility is the wrong word maybe

but if you treat a man as a baby and cater to him like he's an 8 year old princess, then he becomes nonsexual and unattractive and you have neutered that man and killed your sex life

people are not trying to be hostile, they are just kindly pointing out that you are probably a big girl and you are not interested in having sex with a baby and if you turn your husband into a baby then at the end of the day it's destructive to the relationship

"he needs to make his own damn lunch" is not meant to be hostile, it's meant to be a life preserver to save what you have before it's gone

once you see a once-adult as a baby, it's hard to get back the spark -- don't even put yourself in that position, treat your husband as an equal

if it was a non husband making these demands, you would chuckle and say fine, make your own lunch

and you would still see that person as an equal and an adult