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cbdo2007

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10. Definitely get in to some couples counseling....

Reply to Buddyblazon (Original post)

Thu Jun 21, 2012, 01:57 PM

Jun 2012

there are many red flags here. It sounds like something in her mind has changed in regards to having kids in general, because even if she says "with you" she isn't willing to go have them with someone else.

If your company has an EAP you can start there, otherwise try to find a counselor on your insurance and see them. If you don't have insurance, call around and tell the people you don't have insurance and see if they can give you a special rate but you've got to talk to somebody. Good luck!!

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I have a major dilemma in my marriage...and I don't know what to do. [View all] Buddyblazon Jun 2012 OP

Volunteer with children, Big Brothers perhaps or a volunteer at youth sports. Lionessa Jun 2012 #1

Thank you for your advice. Buddyblazon Jun 2012 #4

I think counseling would be the way to go. Kaleva Jun 2012 #2

I'm not sure DU is the right place to look for advice. Old and In the Way Jun 2012 #3

Thank you. Yeah...I told her we needed to go to counseling. Buddyblazon Jun 2012 #5

These kind of issues don't happen overnight. Old and In the Way Jun 2012 #8

This is a really big deal. I think you and your wife should seek counseling ASAP. ZombieHorde Jun 2012 #6

I'm going to give you my best 'Dear Abby' answer LynneSin Jun 2012 #7

dont take advice from strangers who only know your version of this story La Lioness Priyanka Jun 2012 #9

Definitely get in to some couples counseling.... cbdo2007 Jun 2012 #10

Of course get counseling, but ... dawg Jun 2012 #11

Counseling my good man,,, Oh and have you at least told her what you wrote here? benld74 Jun 2012 #12

Does she not want irisblue Jun 2012 #13

She says that she's afraid I won't be much of a help... Buddyblazon Jun 2012 #15

Provide? irisblue Jun 2012 #21

She says she thinks I would make a great father... Buddyblazon Jun 2012 #23

"Left doing all the work" irisblue Jun 2012 #25

Other than counseling, no earthly clue DFW Jun 2012 #14

I don't care about being a 60 year old parent of a 20 year old. Buddyblazon Jun 2012 #16

You will DFW Jun 2012 #18

And just so everyone knows... Buddyblazon Jun 2012 #17

One thing for sure is that it is life-changing DFW Jun 2012 #19

The word "adoption" comes to mind. HopeHoops Jun 2012 #20

Have kids with someone else on the side. JVS Jun 2012 #22

I can't imagine that she wouldn't leave me if I did this. Buddyblazon Jun 2012 #24

A couple of questions to think about. hay rick Jun 2012 #26

Sorry that you are in this situation TuxedoKat Jun 2012 #27

D*mn that is tough ... littlewolf Jun 2012 #28