I have a major dilemma in my marriage...and I don't know what to do.

[DFW]

14. Other than counseling, no earthly clue

What everyone else here says about counseling seems logical, although you had better ask yourself if you want to be a 60 year old parent of a 20 year old. Our two girls wore us out, and they were out of the house by the time we turned 52.

The alternative of the Big Brother sounds inspired, although if you want you own children, it ain't the same.

When my wife and I turned 30, and got married after knowing each other for 8 years, she told me, "look, the train is leaving the station, let's get started," and so we did. In other words, I'm the LAST person to be able to put myself in your shoes. We both turn 60 this year, and our daughters are now 29 and 27. But I'd say at LEAST try some counseling, not only because you need someone injecting some input from your wife's side, but because no one here knows enough to put themselves inside your head right now, as each one of them has said.

Best of luck!