I have a major dilemma in my marriage...and I don't know what to do.

[irisblue]

21. Provide?

emotionally? financially? Her? The child? Both?
I was once in that place; a previous life partner had wanted us to become pregnant, since she'd had a hysterectomy approximately a year before, i was the one who would be pregnant. It was quite surprised to myself in realizing that I did not want children with her, and in reality, didn't want/feel the need for creating a child for myself. Those were 2 separate issues. I would have, happily stayed in that relationship without children. My NOT wanting children might have been an issue in her ending our relationship, but it was not the reason I left. It was a huge red flag of warning. I am sorry that you are experiencing this, it was very very hurtful & sad for to both of us, and sounds like that for you.
Has she explained why, exactly she does not want children with you? No matter what, you need counseling. best wishes