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trixie

(867 posts)
42. Please, no children?
Wed Jul 25, 2012, 06:11 PM
Jul 2012

We immediately decline the invitation. Weddings are for family and children are family. But we're Italian so we would never think of not having kids at weddings.

Wedding etiquette poll [View all] mnhtnbb Jul 2012 OP
I don't understand today's parents of infants. snappyturtle Jul 2012 #1
Thanks. Yes, I'm 61. My boys are 25 and 22. mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #10
If you had just politely expressed concern Lisa D Jul 2012 #2
Out of linein my opinion. HERVEPA Jul 2012 #3
I agree with you, the baby will probably sleep through it. kwassa Jul 2012 #12
See, this is one of the reasons I didn't want to attend in the first place. mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #17
You should stay home trixie Jul 2012 #40
Yep, suck it up. It's only one night. PassingFair Jul 2012 #46
I don't like wedding receptions OmahaBlueDog Jul 2012 #4
Even though I chose pipi_k Jul 2012 #5
Since you’re planning to go the wedding only frogmarch Jul 2012 #6
I am a known baby hog and babies love me so *I* Phentex Jul 2012 #7
Not wrong to express your opinion bigwillq Jul 2012 #8
Not 3 months--3 weeks old! mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #16
No matter what the age bigwillq Jul 2012 #19
you're just digging a bigger hole trixie Jul 2012 #41
I wrote the bride as a fb message--no one else will see it. mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #9
Her post is what, at least to me, makes your comment OK etiquette-wise. kiva Jul 2012 #27
I think you did/wrote the correct thing. Some people are not bothered by a screaming, poopy baby... BlueJazz Jul 2012 #11
It's as much about the presence of the baby (quiet or not) becoming the focus of the dinner table mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #15
Very good points. nt BlueJazz Jul 2012 #20
Not to mention.... pipi_k Jul 2012 #25
Good grief! The baby poops, you change the diaper. Not rocket science. HERVEPA Jul 2012 #30
That wasn't my point pipi_k Jul 2012 #35
You should be glad you never had to sit next to my Auntie Mae.... PassingFair Jul 2012 #47
I never took my sons to formal, HappyMe Jul 2012 #13
Please, no children? trixie Jul 2012 #42
That's actually what I was thinking too LoveMyCali Jul 2012 #52
this is another PERFECT example of how and why Kali Jul 2012 #14
So true! trixie Jul 2012 #43
Here's the bride's response to my fb message (edited to omit names) mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #18
She handled that well. GoneOffShore Jul 2012 #21
That was a very gracious reply. Lisa D Jul 2012 #24
Becca sounds like a very mature & thoughtful woman kimi Jul 2012 #26
She's not joining the family--she IS my brother's only daughter and has 4 brothers. mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #49
Three week old wouldn't be too bad. Three months old, now... haele Jul 2012 #22
If ya have a kid, stay the heck home and take care of it. BOTH do not HAVE to attend. benld74 Jul 2012 #23
That is silly. A sibling gets married and someone has to miss it? CBGLuthier Jul 2012 #33
Yeah, because heaven forbid pipi_k Jul 2012 #37
I don't have an opinion on your response .. LNM Jul 2012 #28
Cost is NOT an issue. It's going to be a big (250 guests or more) wedding mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #32
Don't go, really, really, don't go trixie Jul 2012 #44
Not going is not an option at this point. See # 49. mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #50
I wouldn't have been able to get a sitter for a baby at 3 weeks gollygee Jul 2012 #29
Thanks for everyone's thoughts. I answered my own poll mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #31
A little research has yielded these tidbits about etiquette for formal weddings and babies mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #34
Thanks for sharing that... pipi_k Jul 2012 #36
This message was self-deleted by its author seaglass Jul 2012 #38
Not going is not an option at this point. See # 49. mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #51
3 weeks is very young JVS Jul 2012 #39
No One's asked the ALL IMPORTANT Question yet? alphafemale Jul 2012 #45
I wouldn't worry about it either way Motown_Johnny Jul 2012 #48
I had a very long talk with hubby last night about all this (he's a psychiatrist/psychoanalyst) mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #53
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