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mnhtnbb

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49. She's not joining the family--she IS my brother's only daughter and has 4 brothers.

Wed Jul 25, 2012, 08:54 PM

Jul 2012

I think people have missed part of the description.

The bride asked me in June to be a part of the ceremony by reading a poem that she selected
which has meaning for her--as a dancer--and meaning for me knowing that I gave up dance
when I was younger.

She has also asked me to loan her a bracelet for the "something borrowed" part of the bridal
tradition.

It's too late to 'not' go now. I have to suck it up and carry out the role.

It's doable. I'm an actor. But I'm ticked at putting myself in this position--for
not having another commitment (although this wedding has been planned for years)--
and standing my ground and not going.

All things considered, I'd rather be going to the beach.

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Wedding etiquette poll [View all] mnhtnbb Jul 2012 OP

I don't understand today's parents of infants. snappyturtle Jul 2012 #1

Thanks. Yes, I'm 61. My boys are 25 and 22. mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #10

If you had just politely expressed concern Lisa D Jul 2012 #2

Out of linein my opinion. HERVEPA Jul 2012 #3

I agree with you, the baby will probably sleep through it. kwassa Jul 2012 #12

See, this is one of the reasons I didn't want to attend in the first place. mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #17

You should stay home trixie Jul 2012 #40

Yep, suck it up. It's only one night. PassingFair Jul 2012 #46

I don't like wedding receptions OmahaBlueDog Jul 2012 #4

Even though I chose pipi_k Jul 2012 #5

Since you�re planning to go the wedding only frogmarch Jul 2012 #6

I am a known baby hog and babies love me so *I* Phentex Jul 2012 #7

Not wrong to express your opinion bigwillq Jul 2012 #8

Not 3 months--3 weeks old! mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #16

No matter what the age bigwillq Jul 2012 #19

you're just digging a bigger hole trixie Jul 2012 #41

I wrote the bride as a fb message--no one else will see it. mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #9

Her post is what, at least to me, makes your comment OK etiquette-wise. kiva Jul 2012 #27

I think you did/wrote the correct thing. Some people are not bothered by a screaming, poopy baby... BlueJazz Jul 2012 #11

It's as much about the presence of the baby (quiet or not) becoming the focus of the dinner table mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #15

Very good points. nt BlueJazz Jul 2012 #20

Not to mention.... pipi_k Jul 2012 #25

Good grief! The baby poops, you change the diaper. Not rocket science. HERVEPA Jul 2012 #30

That wasn't my point pipi_k Jul 2012 #35

You should be glad you never had to sit next to my Auntie Mae.... PassingFair Jul 2012 #47

I never took my sons to formal, HappyMe Jul 2012 #13

Please, no children? trixie Jul 2012 #42

That's actually what I was thinking too LoveMyCali Jul 2012 #52

this is another PERFECT example of how and why Kali Jul 2012 #14

So true! trixie Jul 2012 #43

Here's the bride's response to my fb message (edited to omit names) mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #18

She handled that well. GoneOffShore Jul 2012 #21

That was a very gracious reply. Lisa D Jul 2012 #24

Becca sounds like a very mature & thoughtful woman kimi Jul 2012 #26

She's not joining the family--she IS my brother's only daughter and has 4 brothers. mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #49

Three week old wouldn't be too bad. Three months old, now... haele Jul 2012 #22

If ya have a kid, stay the heck home and take care of it. BOTH do not HAVE to attend. benld74 Jul 2012 #23

That is silly. A sibling gets married and someone has to miss it? CBGLuthier Jul 2012 #33

Yeah, because heaven forbid pipi_k Jul 2012 #37

I don't have an opinion on your response .. LNM Jul 2012 #28

Cost is NOT an issue. It's going to be a big (250 guests or more) wedding mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #32

Don't go, really, really, don't go trixie Jul 2012 #44

Not going is not an option at this point. See # 49. mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #50

I wouldn't have been able to get a sitter for a baby at 3 weeks gollygee Jul 2012 #29

Thanks for everyone's thoughts. I answered my own poll mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #31

A little research has yielded these tidbits about etiquette for formal weddings and babies mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #34

Thanks for sharing that... pipi_k Jul 2012 #36

This message was self-deleted by its author seaglass Jul 2012 #38

Not going is not an option at this point. See # 49. mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #51

3 weeks is very young JVS Jul 2012 #39

No One's asked the ALL IMPORTANT Question yet? alphafemale Jul 2012 #45

I wouldn't worry about it either way Motown_Johnny Jul 2012 #48

I had a very long talk with hubby last night about all this (he's a psychiatrist/psychoanalyst) mnhtnbb Jul 2012 #53