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calimary

(90,695 posts)
11. And thank goodness for YOU!
Mon Sep 25, 2023, 10:58 AM
Sep 2023

Last edited Mon Sep 25, 2023, 02:17 PM - Edit history (1)

Shit, imavoter - can’t tell you how often I think about this stuff! Like - ALL THE TIME.

I still have my husband. We’ve been married so long that it’s no longer easy to keep track without stopping to count. When I’m asked, I usually say “we were married in 1976. You do the math.” But not a day goes by that I don’t find myself thinking about it and wondering how much longer we’ve got. And who’s gonna go first? And assuming it’s him, what do I do about it - from mourning til, well, til nights (and how many nights), and all the procedural stuff and coping mechanisms and longer-range stuff and so forth.

And we’re not getting any younger.

I hope you keep us all posted. I’d love to hear about this new journey you’re on. Besides, I imagine it’ll be therapeutic for you, and expanding and deepening wisdom for us all. Please keep posting and weighing in.

Besides - otherwise we’re gonna worry.

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I completely sympathize. Lost the love of my life in 2005 Walleye Sep 2023 #1
Thank you imavoter Sep 2023 #4
I am glad that you are starting to find joy again. Please take very good niyad Sep 2023 #2
thank you n/t imavoter Sep 2023 #5
Get Well samplegirl Sep 2023 #3
I'm doing ok. imavoter Sep 2023 #6
My departed wife SpamWyzer Sep 2023 #7
Oh, Delphinus Sep 2023 #9
Out-of-the-blue divorce is so horrible! BComplex Sep 2023 #13
Thank you for your thoughts. Delmette2.0 Sep 2023 #12
I am glad you are mending. peacebuzzard Sep 2023 #8
So glad to hear you are starting to get a little strength back. MLAA Sep 2023 #10
And thank goodness for YOU! calimary Sep 2023 #11
I'm in your boat, Calimary. BComplex Sep 2023 #14
Terrific lyrics! They really speak the truth. calimary Sep 2023 #15
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