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44. Arrogance. Pure arrogance. Have a blessed day.
Mon Jun 3, 2024, 09:39 PM
Jun 2024

It assumes that you believe as "I" do. (inclusionary)
  There are many religions in the US. Why should you assume I believe in the same religion as you?
Do you believe like I do?
    It's a way of feeling out the other person. It can start a positive conversation if the other is also
    similar in beliefs. If not, it might be a chance to evangelize. Either way, it's a win.
Arrogance again - even if you don't believe like I do, you should, and you should thank me for sort of
       praying for your blessed day. And I don't understand why you're mad at me for saying that nice
       phrase. Everybody else likes it. (exclusionary)

The response to "have a blessed day" is often a defensive response. I don't like being put on defense. But not responding to it feels even worse.

There is a supermarket near me. Every once in a while there is a new person at the cash register who will say "have a blessed day". I tell them that they are short timers. People at this store who try to evangelize from the cash register don't last there too long.

Sometimes at the same supermarket, if they "have a blessed day" me, I'll stop and look lost, befuddled, confused. I might ask them "where am I?". They might start thinking I'm a little senile. They might say "you're at [name of supermarket]". "Oh, it's a supermaket?! I'm not at church?" "No" they'll say. "Then why are you trying to bring God into the checkout line?"

I really hate the "have a blessed day" phrase. Not just the phrase, but the arrogance (often a naive arrogance) that is behind it.

I've thought about an answer to "Have a blessed day" a lot and I think that I have come up with a novel response to it. It's a unique solution, that so far, it seems, no one else has thought of. If Biden wins in November, I will start the process of putting my answer to "have a blessed day" in motion.

I like living. If Biden doesn't win, my response will always be "and a blessed day to you as well".

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It's right up there with "I'll pray for you". Demobrat Jun 2024 #1
I'll sacrifice a chicken to Zuul in your name JoseBalow Jun 2024 #22
Neither saying bugs me. Positive actions make me feel good. Trueblue1968 Jun 2024 #31
I use that one on particularly hypocritical christian types sboatcar Jun 2024 #52
Have a rational day Stardust Mirror Jun 2024 #2
I like that NJCher Jun 2024 #47
It probably triggers negative feelings Tree Lady Jun 2024 #3
I don't like it so I just ignore it. Deuxcents Jun 2024 #4
i often give money to the homeless... ret5hd Jun 2024 #5
How do they answer that??? and I agree..... a kennedy Jun 2024 #7
a grin usually. ret5hd Jun 2024 #9
Ah...... a kennedy Jun 2024 #10
I like your response. beveeheart Jun 2024 #8
This message was self-deleted by its author Polybius Jun 2024 #63
Just respond back... hlthe2b Jun 2024 #6
My favorite Southern saying! Dulcinea Jun 2024 #61
Same. Sets my teeth on edge. Ugh NT MANative Jun 2024 #11
in practice i "take it in the spirit with which it was intended", but i'll draw a distinction between unblock Jun 2024 #12
no. It is religious privilege stuffed in your face. Voltaire2 Jun 2024 #13
Yes Doc Sportello Jun 2024 #32
Receptionist response: Conjuay Jun 2024 #72
No. I hate hearing it, especially if directed to me. sinkingfeeling Jun 2024 #14
i like- have the kind of day u deserve. mopinko Jun 2024 #15
It bugs me too Diamond_Dog Jun 2024 #16
It bugs me too. And I know why. It's just presumptuous. 50 Shades Of Blue Jun 2024 #17
I hear it so infrequently, it doesn't bother me. Fla Dem Jun 2024 #18
Ugh... Yeah Deep State Witch Jun 2024 #19
Same here 🌙 Hekate Jun 2024 #46
Yes i cant stand it n/t gay texan Jun 2024 #20
May you receive all you deserve. quaint Jun 2024 #21
Not wrong. Jirel Jun 2024 #23
"Eat Fresh!" JoseBalow Jun 2024 #24
From Idiocracy. A great movie that no one knows about because Fox killed it. SupportSanity Jun 2024 #42
I'm an atheist, and I take it with the positive spirit I believe is usually intended. Doodley Jun 2024 #25
Not wrong. Keep your religion to yourself. NoRethugFriends Jun 2024 #26
Yeah, it bugs me too Farmer-Rick Jun 2024 #27
May the odds be ever in your favor coprolite Jun 2024 #28
Beats them saying "go f yourself" Srkdqltr Jun 2024 #29
I won't patronize a business that promotes its piety DUgosh Jun 2024 #30
I've done the same with MAGA promoters who own businesses True Dough Jun 2024 #55
When I was a kid, only used in curses AnnaLee Jun 2024 #33
Don't like it. Sometime I answer back, "Blessed Be." Liberal In Texas Jun 2024 #34
Don't like it-- the religious overtone is really annoying and feels coercive and cheap. Timeflyer Jun 2024 #35
For me, it depends on how it is said, and who is saying it. LuckyCharms Jun 2024 #36
Someone took my suggestion of replying back with, "Blessed Be." TlalocW Jun 2024 #37
You're not wrong. soldierant Jun 2024 #38
It's annoying and unnecessary but I just ignore it. Usually I hear this from a cashier or someone just doing their job. dameatball Jun 2024 #39
I take it as a form of courtesy from people from a particular background. hay rick Jun 2024 #40
You're not alone. Laffy Kat Jun 2024 #41
For me, not worth getting upset over! If it makes someone feel better about their day, good on them! Floyd R. Turbo Jun 2024 #43
Arrogance. Pure arrogance. Have a blessed day. SupportSanity Jun 2024 #44
I will look forward to that response ! NJCher Jun 2024 #48
We all have our quirks and whatnots. Niagara Jun 2024 #45
I just say thank you. zanana1 Jun 2024 #49
I do find it rather presumptuous, but on a scale of 1-10, it's... 3catwoman3 Jun 2024 #50
I hate it DBoon Jun 2024 #51
I'm always surprised by the sense of pity I feel for those who say that. Think. Again. Jun 2024 #53
Not in the least... me too!! InAbLuEsTaTe Jun 2024 #54
All Hail Satan is a good comeback. Marcus IM Jun 2024 #56
I'm amazed at how many people here are insulted by someone with good intentions, giving them their best wishes. Wonder Why Jun 2024 #57
You are assuming good intentions were always involved. Lars39 Jun 2024 #65
I made no such statement. Don't "assume" that from my response. Wonder Why Jun 2024 #66
It is right in your subject line. "...someone with good intentions..." Lars39 Jun 2024 #67
Because people in this thread (and in others) have expressed disdain over anyone who says something Wonder Why Jun 2024 #68
I've had a few occasions where someone has said, "'Eid Mubarak," or "Blessed Eid" True Dough Jun 2024 #58
Who cares if it's right or wrong? I hate it too. malthaussen Jun 2024 #59
I answer with.."and may the force be with you..." Tikki Jun 2024 #60
Have a blessed day and... Sealark91 Jun 2024 #62
No malaise Jun 2024 #64
Yeah, I don't like it. It's wearing one's supposed righteousness on one's sleeve. Aristus Jun 2024 #69
Abrabackatcha! JoseBalow Jun 2024 #70
I mutter Conjuay Jun 2024 #71
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