Am I a shit? Or what would you do? In the summer of 2023, my sister told us she had uterine cancer. We drove up to

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17. I would probably send the card

So I wouldn't feel guilty or bad about not sending one. Different form of self preservation!
Then I'd know I did the honorable decent thing as I see it (if I was someone who sent cards!)

I went through something comparable, when my parents left NYC and my father said he was never going back because there was nothing there for him. I was there! I was very hurt and offended and decided I wasn't going to go visit him anymore. My mother did come back to NY to visit me. Then my friends father passed away, he was 20 years younger than my father. I realized I'd feel guilty if something happened to him and I hadn't visited, even though I didn't want to. When he died I knew I'd been a good daughter and honored my parents, hadn't shunned my father as he'd done to me.

I'm an only child, so I don't have siblings to deal with. But if I did, I'd try to maintain some type of relationship even if I had no use for them. For me it would be a call once or twice a year, at holidays or birthdays, to protect myself from any guilt or regret I might have in the future! I'd feel better about myself, superior for showing I can maintain a relationship with a difficult family member. That's just me, and my 2 cents!


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