Am I a shit? Or what would you do? In the summer of 2023, my sister told us she had uterine cancer. We drove up to

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35. Do whatever satisfies your need for contentment

Your anger is righteous, but ask yourself why are you are agonizing over this? If in fact you have disconnected from your sister and are at peace with your decision, why send the card? Tradition is hard to break, but sometimes necessary.

If you are distressed over being berated for not sending the card, make a plan for dealing with that and be at peace with your plan. We all can be triggered (I have to tell myself that every day).

My mother was the expert at dealing with anger. She just said nothing. Didn’t regret any escalating hostile interactions or ill considered responses, in the face of others behaving irrationally.Wish I had her fortitude on this one.

Just a few thoughts. Best wishes on your decision