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156. if shes doing crack she won't be back for several days

Mon Oct 8, 2012, 02:02 AM

Oct 2012

I think this just sucks. You did what you had to do. You tried to hold out but she left you no choice. The child was going to see more and more of this behavior until someone stopped it. It would have escalated and really screwed him up.

Hopefully she is able to get things straightened out or have a family member raise him until she can. But what was she gonna do when he crapped his pants out in the cold? She couldn't take care of him this way.

What is eating my soul now is just thinking about the huge numbers of kids and families going through this kind of thing. Poverty, drugs, street life. It hurts my soul.

If mom comes back, don't let her pin it on you. Pin it back on her. What did she think would happen when she left her child with a stranger while she went out and got herself arrested?
If she is not hostile encourage her to go get the help she needs.

I hated that it came to this as I am no fan of CPS. But there was no option legally or morally. Don't beat yourself up over it. He will be warm this winter.

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I need advice.. Oh man, My heart is torn right now. [View all] fun n serious Oct 2012 OP

ummm.... MrsBrady Oct 2012 #1

She didn't exactly let the child go hungry. The mom is trying. NYC_SKP Oct 2012 #19

I'm a manditory reporter in my state... MrsBrady Oct 2012 #34

I am too, as an employee of a public school organization. NYC_SKP Oct 2012 #36

I hate to say it as well, but you need to contact the police riderinthestorm Oct 2012 #2

I'm thinking I should wait.. fun n serious Oct 2012 #3

why wait when you know he hasn't eaten in two days MrsBrady Oct 2012 #4

Same pipi_k Oct 2012 #5

This is my deepest concern... fun n serious Oct 2012 #6

call 911 MrsBrady Oct 2012 #7

I calling police non emergency line right now.. fun n serious Oct 2012 #8

ok good job... MrsBrady Oct 2012 #9

Yup, please keep us "on the line" as well. There are some DU social worker experts here... nt riderinthestorm Oct 2012 #10

You are doing the right thing. Keep us posted - and - Tuesday Afternoon Oct 2012 #16

And you don't know her. She could be setting you up for serious charges. sarge43 Oct 2012 #158

Your nine year old is old enough to know something Phentex Oct 2012 #11

Call 911 NOW Takket Oct 2012 #12

Does the boy have a sprained ankle? grasswire Oct 2012 #13

he is still asleep. fun n serious Oct 2012 #22

If it was me, I'd call the police and explain the situation and offer to provide shelter for him. HopeHoops Oct 2012 #14

I wonder how she knew where your house was? htuttle Oct 2012 #15

he has never been over before. nt fun n serious Oct 2012 #18

Police are on the way. fun n serious Oct 2012 #17

You did the right thing. The police will know how to handle this. Tuesday Afternoon Oct 2012 #20

Yeah, they'll do the right thing.... kurtzapril4 Oct 2012 #102

He was being abused in the care of his mother. fun n serious Oct 2012 #112

that was an Over reaction. You did the right thing. Maybe the police don't always do Tuesday Afternoon Oct 2012 #121

of all the people in this thread saying the same thing I said, I wonder why you chose me Tuesday Afternoon Oct 2012 #124

I'm sorry I'm tormenting people fun n serious Oct 2012 #127

YOU are NO problem. I had replied to kurtzapril4 who IS tormenting people and I want to know why. Tuesday Afternoon Oct 2012 #129

see why I rarely post fun n serious Oct 2012 #131

exactly! You did the Right Thing. I hope that you can continue to be a good influence in Tuesday Afternoon Oct 2012 #132

he has a grandmother? Wake the kid and find his grandmother 2pooped2pop Oct 2012 #154

I have no words of advice or wisdom... OneGrassRoot Oct 2012 #21

I think you have done the right thing. Ptah Oct 2012 #23

Write things down b4 the police arrive. longship Oct 2012 #26

It's the right thing to do, not easy but the right thing to do. NYC_SKP Oct 2012 #27

Nothing to add but Chorophyll Oct 2012 #62

I'm in Oregon bkkyosemite Oct 2012 #24

they're here fun n serious Oct 2012 #25

Good luck. You're doing the right thing based on available info. aikoaiko Oct 2012 #28

Thank you for caring and sharing - n/t coalition_unwilling Oct 2012 #32

ok... MrsBrady Oct 2012 #35

I know you're agonizing over this, but you really need to call CPS. Arkansas Granny Oct 2012 #29

Are you in a situation where you would like to legally foster the child? Family services will most NotThisTime Oct 2012 #30

Police said kid can not stay here fun n serious Oct 2012 #45

She may come back and get hostile if her son is not there, ask what to do in this situation? NotThisTime Oct 2012 #46

My thought too, but pipi_k Oct 2012 #107

Thanx again everyone. fun n serious Oct 2012 #116

This message was self-deleted by its author darkangel218 Oct 2012 #31

I've read elsewhere on DU (don't have cites ready at hand) that coalition_unwilling Oct 2012 #33

And... tama Oct 2012 #44

I wonder how many on DU have ever had to go hungry for more than coalition_unwilling Oct 2012 #48

This message was self-deleted by its author darkangel218 Oct 2012 #75

I did... Chan790 Oct 2012 #149

and, may I add, offer WalMart associates such low wages and hours provided marzipanni Oct 2012 #56

Police contacted CPS and we are waiting for a caseworker.. fun n serious Oct 2012 #37

You've done the right thing MissB Oct 2012 #38

Have the police left or are they waiting for the caseworker? Bozita Oct 2012 #39

Police have not left fun n serious Oct 2012 #40

Poor Kid...Poor woman...Horrible Situation zellie Oct 2012 #41

a scene from the 1930s grasswire Oct 2012 #42

I think the state is going to help him. fun n serious Oct 2012 #47

This is like a scene from Theodore Dreiser or Upton Sinclair - n/t coalition_unwilling Oct 2012 #49

Or Steinbeck KamaAina Oct 2012 #164

Not just American. Dickens. Downwinder Oct 2012 #165

A cascade of negative consequences... riderinthestorm Oct 2012 #51

How awful, I am hopeful something here can be worked out that can help them both, she clearly cannot NotThisTime Oct 2012 #54

thanks for the update MrsBrady Oct 2012 #55

desperation. i am not surprised with the conclusion. i am sorry for all. child certainly, seabeyond Oct 2012 #58

I had a feeling that was what she was doing, but I did not want to say it. ZombieHorde Oct 2012 #66

well said... nt seabeyond Oct 2012 #89

Mothers turn to prostitution to feed their children. This is so heartbreaking. yardwork Oct 2012 #70

+1. Mothers will do anything to feed their DevonRex Oct 2012 #79

"Mother was arrested in the wee hrs of morning on prostition charges." dixiegrrrrl Oct 2012 #133

Not just from the 30's, happening today, 1 in 4 American Children Go Hungry, But Still Spends crunch60 Oct 2012 #57

grandma probably just got in a fight with her 2pooped2pop Oct 2012 #155

My advice, for what it's worth tama Oct 2012 #43

Agree. They need someone outside the system. And the son may help this boy in some way, to hold on. freshwest Oct 2012 #147

Yes tama Oct 2012 #150

My two cents - choie Oct 2012 #50

This must be breaking your heart lunatica Oct 2012 #52

How long does it take for a case worker to show up? fun n serious Oct 2012 #53

you've done the right thing. MrsBrady Oct 2012 #59

I wonder if the mother doesn't even understand the system treestar Oct 2012 #77

I think you should give the child as much reassurance as you can lunatica Oct 2012 #60

Police are playing xbox with him in my living room fun n serious Oct 2012 #61

they are doing the right thing too MrsBrady Oct 2012 #64

Ok, that must be fairly surreal TrogL Oct 2012 #157

Probably a druggie. She prostitutes to pay for drugs and any leftover goes kestrel91316 Oct 2012 #63

I'm going to be sick. Kayden has been chatting up a storm fun n serious Oct 2012 #65

you can do it... MrsBrady Oct 2012 #67

Try to hold it together, dear. Chin up for just a few more minutes. MANative Oct 2012 #68

You've done so good! Hold on. When the social worker gets here, if you need to, then go cry! riderinthestorm Oct 2012 #72

God, what a mess... DiverDave Oct 2012 #74

Don't think of it. Think of the wonderful DevonRex Oct 2012 #85

You did the right thing. jackbenimble Oct 2012 #69

That's a good point. yardwork Oct 2012 #73

The kid wasn't in a safe situation, you did the right thing. When the State gets involved they try NotThisTime Oct 2012 #80

You are a fine writer, we can understand you. That's what matters. And glad you are protecting the cpamomfromtexas Oct 2012 #71

If I were religious on a Sunday morning, I would say Downwinder Oct 2012 #76

Thats what my friend Robin said. fun n serious Oct 2012 #78

I hope he and his mom will somehow *both* be fed and warm tonight renate Oct 2012 #84

I am so glad it was your door. JohnnyLib2 Oct 2012 #87

I feel kayden was incredibly lucky that is was my door fun n serious Oct 2012 #94

you know... MrsBrady Oct 2012 #105

She still has not shown up fun n serious Oct 2012 #115

If she is in custody, won't they let her know what has transpired? Downwinder Oct 2012 #117

I just spoke to police. Mom was informed. and Kayden is now with his grandmother. fun n serious Oct 2012 #119

Ok...good news, then, hopefully. dixiegrrrrl Oct 2012 #134

Good job, Fun polly7 Oct 2012 #143

if shes doing crack she won't be back for several days 2pooped2pop Oct 2012 #156

I agree with this nadine_mn Oct 2012 #138

kayden told police fun n serious Oct 2012 #81

her boyfriend, or her pimp? grasswire Oct 2012 #82

hugs to you MrsBrady Oct 2012 #83

Bless you Tsiyu Oct 2012 #86

and just something to consider Corgigal Oct 2012 #88

So many emotions fun n serious Oct 2012 #96

Be a Casa advocate... it's not easy work to foster or advocate but it's up to those of us NotThisTime Oct 2012 #100

This is heartbreaking skygazer Oct 2012 #90

You write fine! Quantess Oct 2012 #91

I just finished a long talk with my own 9 year old about what just happend. fun n serious Oct 2012 #92

You absolutely did the right thing. What a sad situation. I just finished mnhtnbb Oct 2012 #93

Stay close with your family tonight. longship Oct 2012 #95

Thank you DU and everyone. fun n serious Oct 2012 #97

That's what families are for. longship Oct 2012 #98

Yes you do, and maybe many of them. NotThisTime Oct 2012 #101

no words... just a virtual hug handmade34 Oct 2012 #104

take care of yourself.... MrsBrady Oct 2012 #106

... SammyWinstonJack Oct 2012 #108

Thank YOU, fun, from this little society. elleng Oct 2012 #111

The world is confused Smickey Oct 2012 #99

Well Done, Fun and Serious vanlassie Oct 2012 #103

You have an abandoned child in your custody. slackmaster Oct 2012 #109

He's in CPS custody now.. fun n serious Oct 2012 #110

What an incredibly sad situation oregonjen Oct 2012 #113

I believe he has a much better chance with CPS than with his own mother slackmaster Oct 2012 #114

What you did was very kind and compassionate. I salute you! slackmaster Oct 2012 #118

They found mom, she was in jail.. Kayden is with grandmother. nt. fun n serious Oct 2012 #120

Sadly, that does not surprise me at all slackmaster Oct 2012 #123

Perhaps you can stay in touch with the Grandmother and offer some assistance in Tuesday Afternoon Oct 2012 #125

Yes. fun n serious Oct 2012 #128

I hope she calls you. Good luck to all Tuesday Afternoon Oct 2012 #130

fun n serious Dystopian Oct 2012 #144

He says he was living with Grandmother before when this was going on, I would question why he is NotThisTime Oct 2012 #135

Not likely Tsiyu Oct 2012 #151

Kudos to you fun n serious K8-EEE Oct 2012 #152

Although I am reading this thread well after things have quieted, I want to madmom Oct 2012 #122

Thank you. Thank you all. fun n serious Oct 2012 #126

Thank you for helping this child TuxedoKat Oct 2012 #145

Get the authorities involved right away. The child will go into emergency foster care applegrove Oct 2012 #136

This has been done - see the earlier posts. The Velveteen Ocelot Oct 2012 #139

Vibes to the little guy. applegrove Oct 2012 #141

Wow. Just wow. My heart hurts for everyone involved. I hope that GreenPartyVoter Oct 2012 #137

You did the right thing nadine_mn Oct 2012 #140

Just got home and saw this thread. You did a good thing fun n serious. bluesbassman Oct 2012 #142

Just found this thread and think you are just wonderful for doing the right thing... TreasonousBastard Oct 2012 #146

Came in late to the thread... Proud of you, your son, your husband. The world needs more like you. freshwest Oct 2012 #148

You did a very good thing. UnrepentantLiberal Oct 2012 #153

You are an angel. I'm grateful there are people like you in this world. myrna minx Oct 2012 #159

Late to the party, just gotta say one thing. lumberjack_jeff Oct 2012 #160

I just read the entire heartbreaking thread. Javaman Oct 2012 #161

Kids: if you get lost, find a mom with kids and ask for help Land Shark Oct 2012 #162

Thank you for caring enough to help that child to a better future. In_The_Wind Oct 2012 #163

You did a really good thing. easttexaslefty Oct 2012 #166