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Tobin S.

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Sun Oct 14, 2012, 05:02 PM

Oct 2012

We all have different tolerances for change. I've dramatically changed my life several times, and it was difficult, but I seem to be tolerant of the stress that change entails. My wife, on the other hand, is averse to change. When we met I figured that out pretty early, and when it became time to make some big changes I tried to take care of it all from my side of the relationship.

This is one area where we have a bit of trouble in our relationship. She wants everything to stay the same and I seem to thrive on change. I have to have new stuff happen to me here and there and it causes her stress. If I'm not making waves every once in a while I start to feel stagnant.

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Life question? [View all] Alleycat Oct 2012 OP

Welcome to the Midlife Crisis Club begin_within Oct 2012 #1

A college degree has eluded me for a long time Tobin S. Oct 2012 #2

It means you are in good company. HopeHoops Oct 2012 #3

I went utterly bonkers at your stage of life. I survived and it made my life rich. nolabear Oct 2012 #4

I was going to say something to the effect of, "You have to make something happen," Tobin S. Oct 2012 #5

Yes, with respect for the sheer difficulty of making large scale changes. nolabear Oct 2012 #7

10-4 Tobin S. Oct 2012 #8

things will be fine. set reasonable short term goals...don't set far future expectations... yawnmaster Oct 2012 #6

Exact same boat. Joe Shlabotnik Oct 2012 #9

Shit, that's my life but I'm only 33. n/t Chan790 Oct 2012 #10

I just wrote a haiku about this, want to hear it, goes like this: Doc_Technical Oct 2012 #11

A meaningful relationship alarimer Oct 2012 #12

I'm 60. cliffordu Oct 2012 #13

Thanks for all the input, everyone. Alleycat Oct 2012 #14