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slightlv

(8,220 posts)
16. I feel your frustration and anger!
Mon Sep 1, 2025, 05:46 PM
Sep 2025

I've had so many episodes like this, they're too numerous to count at this point. My husband is 72. What he knew about computers went out with the dementia that's possessing him. I've tried to reroute as much as I can through my own phone and/or computers, but there are some things that are just impossible.... like no way to edit information to direct it to another number, etc. The last situation where I got into a round robin of bullshit was on trying to pre-register him for a doctor's appointment. At that point, he didn't have a phone, so I put in my phone number to direct any and all texts... since I'd be the one responsible for each, anyway. Except, we have the same insurer, the same doctor's office and they kept wanting to change MY account. Two hours into every trick I could think of had me shutting everything down and saying "forget it."

I realize things are more complex today than they were even a decade ago. But NOTHING is easy when you're dealing with the diminishing returns of old age and today's technology. And no one has a lick of pity for the position you get placed in. I feel your frustration, every day it seems. I've already lost the intelligent, intellectual, fun loving man I married. And as I get older and less able to keep up with all this crap, I'm wondering how in the hell we're suppose to "carry on."

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I would be shaking too!!! elleng Sep 2025 #1
Thank you for the hug, elleng. I really need one! BComplex Sep 2025 #3
Hmm. If you have an Apple laptop or tablet-- viva la Sep 2025 #2
I have an ipad that is not hooked up to a phone number! That's a great idea! BComplex Sep 2025 #4
Hmm CloudWatcher Sep 2025 #8
But can't you move a phone number to another device? viva la Sep 2025 #30
Sure CloudWatcher Sep 2025 #33
it does not surprise me at all Skittles Sep 2025 #5
The tech Codifer Sep 2025 #6
LOL! BComplex Sep 2025 #7
I am 76 this is the crap we all go through Oppaloopa Sep 2025 #9
Doesn't it seem to you like it's getting worse? Or am I just getting really fed up? BComplex Sep 2025 #11
Its worse Hornedfrog2000 Sep 2025 #14
Did they summon the Council of Geniuses? JoseBalow Sep 2025 #10
Yep! That's them! BComplex Sep 2025 #12
Seems like any insurance is just a big scam anymore mdbl Sep 2025 #13
There's a hole in the bucket luvallpeeps Sep 2025 #15
I feel your frustration and anger! slightlv Sep 2025 #16
I am so sorry for your predicament, slightlv. BComplex Sep 2025 #22
I agree with this! slightlv Sep 2025 #44
Email recovery DownriverDem Sep 2025 #17
It's unfortunate that it's a holiday. The timing of problems like these can take more than a day to solve. ancianita Sep 2025 #18
I am glad we have the insurance, but it wasn't just today. We've been working on this since Saturday the 23rd. BComplex Sep 2025 #24
I see. I got the impression from your OP that it's just the past day or two. Well, here's the ancianita Sep 2025 #29
Today was kind of a culmination of so many attempts to get help, and getting conflicting stories on BComplex Sep 2025 #36
Understood. I hope things do go better, and glad that you appreciate ancianita Sep 2025 #43
Yep! BComplex Sep 2025 #47
You're right-- these things always happen only on holiday weekends. viva la Sep 2025 #32
I would be shaking mad too. God forbid anyone should actually help. How hard would it have LoisB Sep 2025 #19
I know, LoisB! That's why we drove the hour drive (one hour each way) when we called the Apple store BComplex Sep 2025 #25
You hit the nail on the head - SALES. LoisB Sep 2025 #45
I Feel Your Pain ProfessorGAC Sep 2025 #20
That happened to me with the cable company here twice! BComplex Sep 2025 #37
Thanks for showing us why we should never buy that insurance. iemanja Sep 2025 #21
Good idea! BComplex Sep 2025 #26
And copy the state council on aging TommyT139 Sep 2025 #46
Not quite Kafka, but suggestive of it. NNadir Sep 2025 #23
That's what I've been thinking! BComplex Sep 2025 #27
it's "iKafka". (I'm copywriting that. It's mine!) ret5hd Sep 2025 #28
Your Czech is in the mail n/t BaronChocula Sep 2025 #40
Used to love Apple IbogaProject Sep 2025 #31
I'm so sorry. I would send a copy of this to Apple headquarters. HeartsCanHope Sep 2025 #34
call Apple Care and ask to speak to a supervisor Tetrachloride Sep 2025 #35
I used to get results writing letters to corporate CEOs BaronChocula Sep 2025 #39
I have to guess that you tried calling his phone also sending texts that might show up in a banner..? Even though the Exp Sep 2025 #38
We dealt with this recently too Dr. Shepper Sep 2025 #41
What a nightmare...I don't have Apple products. Joinfortmill Sep 2025 #42
Sadly, this is a very typical experience when dealing with tech people vanamonde Sep 2025 #48
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