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JMCKUSICK

(4,997 posts)
18. Very well said Debbie,
Tue Dec 30, 2025, 05:29 AM
2 hrs ago

Bad people are bad people. If they have family as part of their identity, it doesn't make them less bad nor you more obligated to take their abuse.
You get to choose the people you let into your heart now.
Let rules to keep children safe be your guide as you practice these steps.
You have so much love here Debbie, and while the hugs don't quite feel the same, you weren't getting any from them anyway lol.
May you find the strength to follow through and the peace of mind to know you're right.
Love you, John

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... SheltieLover 9 hrs ago #1
Good. Stay away from toxic people. "I love you....not" - Jesus wept! LoisB 9 hrs ago #2
Listen to me Deb... LuckyCharms 9 hrs ago #3
This is great advice, Deb, and Lucky Charms is being about as honest and kind as anyone could ask for. Deuxcents 9 hrs ago #4
Great advice. And to add - your first priority is Rich. He loves you and cares about you but is also ill question everything 9 hrs ago #6
This -- these . fierywoman 7 hrs ago #13
I still don't know how you emerged from all that... buzzycrumbhunger 9 hrs ago #5
I understand, deb True Dough 9 hrs ago #7
Hang in there Deb you're loved on DU kimbutgar 9 hrs ago #8
How awful iemanja 8 hrs ago #9
Stay strong. We love you. ❤️ littlemissmartypants 8 hrs ago #10
Do not send those people any more money - TBF 7 hrs ago #11
Babe hugshugs hugs irisblue 7 hrs ago #12
I am so sorry Tree Lady 7 hrs ago #14
Hugs and more hugs. summer_in_TX 7 hrs ago #15
debm55 -- I saw your lead line and had to read your post. Thank You for your pure honesty. George McGovern 7 hrs ago #16
Cyber-hugs, deb. Dear_Prudence 7 hrs ago #17
Very well said Debbie, JMCKUSICK 2 hrs ago #18
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