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debm55

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23. I tried to make myself scarce in the steel mill town. When we moved to the suburbs, it got worse.My parents were very

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Tue Dec 30, 2025, 01:03 PM

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big on the Ten Commandments.----Obey your parents. I also went to Our Lady of Perpetual Guilt, where it was drummed into me..No sex ed at school or home, so I didn't know what my grandmother was doing. Like I said I was into art and being with my friends who were my refuge. Awards for writing and art. Reading, Dance and Swimming. I set my goal on leaving at 18 and I went to college 150 miles away. Yes, it was hard. But I had no one to go to. As college student , I found my wings. I was lucky. I had a dream and could see better things in the future. My husband is a loving man. I lucked out.

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I have to be honest with you folks. ------------------ [View all] debm55 21 hrs ago OP

... SheltieLover 21 hrs ago #1

Good. Stay away from toxic people. "I love you....not" - Jesus wept! LoisB 21 hrs ago #2

Listen to me Deb... LuckyCharms 21 hrs ago #3

This is great advice, Deb, and Lucky Charms is being about as honest and kind as anyone could ask for. Deuxcents 20 hrs ago #4

Great advice. And to add - your first priority is Rich. He loves you and cares about you but is also ill question everything 20 hrs ago #6

This -- these . fierywoman 19 hrs ago #13

I still don't know how you emerged from all that... buzzycrumbhunger 20 hrs ago #5

I'm not sure how Debbie emerged from this abuse alive Niagara 9 hrs ago #20

Thank you Niagara. You were one that helped me. I thank you friend. I had a meeting with my new therapist yesterday. How debm55 9 hrs ago #21

I don't like seeing people hurting, Debbie Niagara 8 hrs ago #22

I tried to make myself scarce in the steel mill town. When we moved to the suburbs, it got worse.My parents were very debm55 6 hrs ago #23

I understand, deb True Dough 20 hrs ago #7

Hang in there Deb you're loved on DU kimbutgar 20 hrs ago #8

How awful iemanja 20 hrs ago #9

Stay strong. We love you. ❤️ littlemissmartypants 19 hrs ago #10

Do not send those people any more money - TBF 19 hrs ago #11

Babe hugshugs hugs irisblue 19 hrs ago #12

I am so sorry Tree Lady 18 hrs ago #14

Hugs and more hugs. summer_in_TX 18 hrs ago #15

debm55 -- I saw your lead line and had to read your post. Thank You for your pure honesty. George McGovern 18 hrs ago #16

Cyber-hugs, deb. Dear_Prudence 18 hrs ago #17

Very well said Debbie, JMCKUSICK 14 hrs ago #18

And the only person she ever loved was her mother, who had digitally abused me as a child (4-5 years) every Saturday debm55 10 hrs ago #19