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MineralMan

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9. My wife and I moved to m innesota

Reply to HipChick (Original post)

Wed Dec 19, 2012, 09:51 PM

Dec 2012

My wife and I moved to Minnesota after her father had a stroke. Now, her mother is 84, and we're helping her stay independent in her own home. There is another sister here, but she is hopelessly incapable of anything. A third sister lives in Florida, and rarely even calls.

Bottom line is that it is up to us.

We are OK with that, but it can be frustrating at times.

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DU'ers who are primary caregivers for their parents.. [View all] HipChick Dec 2012 OP

Working with family isn't always easy. In_The_Wind Dec 2012 #1

My younger brother tries... HipChick Dec 2012 #2

I hear ya on the suck eggs part. In_The_Wind Dec 2012 #4

There are a number of ways they can and should help. Baitball Blogger Dec 2012 #3

just went through this, HipChick Maine-ah Dec 2012 #5

I'm in the same boat...no children, so I'm the one. DearHeart Dec 2012 #6

I did this once. Coyotl Dec 2012 #7

My sister lives closer to my Mom by 1200 miles. However, Mom has been in Assissted Living sinkingfeeling Dec 2012 #8

My wife and I moved to m innesota MineralMan Dec 2012 #9

Luckily I had to survive and had a sister caretaking UTUSN Dec 2012 #10

Get help from home hospice as soon as possible. pacalo Dec 2012 #11

My only sister is utterly useless, was actually in the way, and she left town. NYC_SKP Dec 2012 #12

Thats the only contact HipChick Dec 2012 #14

We are similar then. NYC_SKP Dec 2012 #15

Hey NYC_SKP. Scruffy Rumbler Dec 2012 #17

PS, sending good vibes and hugs. NYC_SKP Dec 2012 #13

Hey HipChick, Scruffy Rumbler Dec 2012 #16

My parents (and eventually my brother and I) AmyDeLune Dec 2012 #18