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Withywindle

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13. I think you should be discreet, but direct.

Reply to struggle4progress (Original post)

Sun Jan 8, 2012, 03:33 AM

Jan 2012

Don't make veiled references to "smelling something" or pantomiming a sniff. If she's really totally unaware of her smoke smell (as many smokers of both pot and tobacco are), then she might think that you're indirectly accusing her of having BO or bad breath, which is far more embarrassing. Or else being a TOTALLY NASTY creeper.

You don't know her, so it's not really your place to say anything, but if you encounter her again and you're really worried about her future, the best thing to do would be to just VERY quietly whisper something like, "I don't know what the testing situation here is or how uptight people are, but I did notice your clothes smell like pot smoke and if I noticed, others probably did too. Just thought you should know." And then leave. No further contact - that was crossing a personal boundary line, but if you're sincere about just wanting to help, then you delivered the message.

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How does a middle-aged guy tell a pretty young store clerk that [View all] struggle4progress Jan 2012 OP

"STand next to her. Take a BIG sniff. Smile and say "I remember when I smoke too" Then walk Vincardog Jan 2012 #1

I probably would have asked if she'd sell me joint OriginalGeek Jan 2012 #2

As attempt to purchase is criminal in some jurisdictions, I never ever say stuff like that struggle4progress Jan 2012 #5

Well, my narc radar ain't what it used to be OriginalGeek Jan 2012 #8

Well,�my narc radar has never been good: in fact, it only ever went off once, when I was celebrating struggle4progress Jan 2012 #9

Sounds like you made the right call OriginalGeek Jan 2012 #11

Meanwhile, in Colorado in 1976... Art_from_Ark Jan 2012 #15

Smile and inhale :) n/t unionworks Jan 2012 #3

You need to tell her before she gets in trouble. iscooterliberally Jan 2012 #4

Been there Doc Holliday Jan 2012 #6

that might have worked struggle4progress Jan 2012 #7

I think the most tactful thing to do is to look around and ask, deucemagnet Jan 2012 #10

That's the best way. freshwest Jan 2012 #22

If you were SURE it was her... not a big deal. MiddleFingerMom Jan 2012 #12

I think you should be discreet, but direct. Withywindle Jan 2012 #13

MYOB aikoaiko Jan 2012 #14

Ask her if she's holding Orrex Jan 2012 #16

Lean in and say quietly "You smell like pot." Iggo Jan 2012 #17

You need to elaborate. Did she smell like weed, or did she smell like she just smoked some weed? givemebackmycountry Jan 2012 #18

That old hippie smell libodem Jan 2012 #19

He doesn't. MilesColtrane Jan 2012 #20

Had a student get on the elevator one day... BiggJawn Jan 2012 #21