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Samantha

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68. Two true loves and one major devastating crush

Sun Mar 3, 2013, 01:50 AM

Mar 2013

Married the first true love after living with him for 2 years; stayed married for 24 years and then it ended.

I have been seeing the second true love for 20 years. Met him at a dance and I thought he looked like Omar Sharif of Dr. Zhivago fame. Love at first sight. He is 10 years younger than I and it has been a roller-coaster ride. I believe it is in the process of ending now, we just don't want to admit it.

I won't talk about the major crush.

I think I will find someone I love again before my life is over but it will be a different type of love.

What is your definition of successful? I am hoping you were not seeing them both at the same time ... my relationships were in succession I might add!

Sam

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How many times have you loved in your lifetime? [View all] kentauros Mar 2013 OP

One - Unsucessful cantbeserious Mar 2013 #1

Aww, I'm sorry about that. kentauros Mar 2013 #4

No Prospects For The Last 15 Years - Thanks For The Positive Thought - No Expectation For Change cantbeserious Mar 2013 #19

I don't know if this helps any, kentauros Mar 2013 #23

At 55 The Well Is Pretty Dry - So The Letting Go Has Already Occurred cantbeserious Mar 2013 #25

Married when I was very young - then single for 35 years. I was happy and content to be single, patricia92243 Mar 2013 #28

The Not Looking Something Will Happen Hope Is Long Over - Have Not Looked For 10 Years Now cantbeserious Mar 2013 #34

BA of .500...impressive! Sekhmets Daughter Mar 2013 #2

The second of the successful ones is visiting in about a week. kentauros Mar 2013 #7

How very wonderful! Sekhmets Daughter Mar 2013 #8

We have the same hopes kentauros Mar 2013 #17

Shared hopes... Sekhmets Daughter Mar 2013 #21

Twice. ZombieHorde Mar 2013 #3

My past-wife and I are still friends, kentauros Mar 2013 #9

I left my wife this summer, but I still see her very often. ZombieHorde Mar 2013 #13

I don't what advice to give on that other than kentauros Mar 2013 #16

How do you judge success, my dear kentauros? CaliforniaPeggy Mar 2013 #5

I guess a "success" would be at least a good relationship out of it. kentauros Mar 2013 #11

That's very helpful, and I thank you! CaliforniaPeggy Mar 2013 #14

You're welcome! kentauros Mar 2013 #18

many, if you include parents, children, pets in addition to sig other! NRaleighLiberal Mar 2013 #6

I'm thinking SO, but sure, all the rest count, too. kentauros Mar 2013 #12

twice In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #10

Well, you could say that yours is an example of kentauros Mar 2013 #15

This message was self-deleted by its author In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #20

can you grok it In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #36

Don't worry about the other video. kentauros Mar 2013 #38

I was lucky enough to find a woman that would put up with me once in my life. hobbit709 Mar 2013 #22

The most important thing, at least in my mind, kentauros Mar 2013 #24

Too many times to count, RebelOne Mar 2013 #26

That's no good kentauros Mar 2013 #27

Just the once.. HipChick Mar 2013 #29

I hope you can laugh at that, kentauros Mar 2013 #30

Fell in love three times mokawanis Mar 2013 #31

Aww, that's beautiful! kentauros Mar 2013 #32

two previously tabbycat31 Mar 2013 #33

I know about long-distance relationships kentauros Mar 2013 #35

The long distance part was cumbersome for us at first, too DFW Mar 2013 #85

3 times ConcernedCanuk Mar 2013 #37

My own experiences with relationships has been ... limited. kentauros Mar 2013 #39

working on it ConcernedCanuk Mar 2013 #40

Twice alarimer Mar 2013 #41

That's a good sign :) kentauros Mar 2013 #49

Zero mythology Mar 2013 #42

I'm 62 - been in serious love 3 times, looking for another ConcernedCanuk Mar 2013 #43

Are you friggen serious? Trascoli Mar 2013 #45

The one parent who likes you? siligut Mar 2013 #46

To give you some perspective, I gave up trying in my mid-thirties. kentauros Mar 2013 #50

Never give up on yourself, mythology ! In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #71

3 - all remembered fondly. 840high Mar 2013 #44

Very good :) kentauros Mar 2013 #51

Let's see here sakabatou Mar 2013 #47

That's a better memory than mine! kentauros Mar 2013 #52

My memory, short term at least, is fucked up. sakabatou Mar 2013 #54

Too many to count. Iggo Mar 2013 #48

Okay! kentauros Mar 2013 #53

Three. a la izquierda Mar 2013 #55

I'm glad to hear you're in the good kind of relationship. kentauros Mar 2013 #59

My husband is a saint. a la izquierda Mar 2013 #60

You never do know what you might have that way. kentauros Mar 2013 #64

three successful. many more that were a waste of my time and talent. Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2013 #56

Even wasted time means experience. kentauros Mar 2013 #61

well, it did hone my bullshit detector down to a very fine edge. so, there is that, I guess - Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2013 #65

Twice SwissTony Mar 2013 #57

I wouldn't complain either :) kentauros Mar 2013 #62

Twice DFW Mar 2013 #58

Wow! kentauros Mar 2013 #63

Thanks, and here's hoping, anyway. I wouldn't have believed 30 years could go by so quickly. DFW Mar 2013 #70

Nice boombox! kentauros Mar 2013 #73

Yeah, the boombox is the first thing everyone notices. DFW Mar 2013 #74

I think one reason I noticed the boombox kentauros Mar 2013 #75

Fallen in love many times RFKHumphreyObama Mar 2013 #66

Well, that's too bad. kentauros Mar 2013 #67

Two true loves and one major devastating crush Samantha Mar 2013 #68

I consider a success as any relationship that's happy, kentauros Mar 2013 #69

Loved what? LWolf Mar 2013 #72

I'm going to assume two things here. kentauros Mar 2013 #76

It's all too complicated.. sendero Mar 2013 #77

Technically, I started this thread as a copycat to the kentauros Mar 2013 #81

Sorry.. sendero Mar 2013 #87

No problem kentauros Mar 2013 #93

4 annabanana Mar 2013 #78

Nice! kentauros Mar 2013 #82

True love? At least once, but it's a little more complicated than that derby378 Mar 2013 #79

I guess the way to look at it (at least as I do) kentauros Mar 2013 #83

I'm 59, with only one relationship but it has lasted 24 years so far. He's my heart. Rowdyboy Mar 2013 #80

I know exactly what you mean when that love is returned! kentauros Mar 2013 #84

? In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #86

~!!~ kentauros Mar 2013 #88

* ! In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #89

I'll just have to remember to look at those this evening kentauros Mar 2013 #90

Twice. Earth_First Mar 2013 #91

Wonderful! kentauros Mar 2013 #92

A few. All to no avail. The Velveteen Ocelot Mar 2013 #94