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rppper

(2,952 posts) Thu Mar 14, 2013, 07:45 AM Mar 2013

My ex-wife passed away last night and... [View all]

....I'm torn on how I should feel about it. She was 45 and had been fighting the effects of a botched gastric bypass surgery and painkiller addiction(she was a functioning addict) for nearly 20 years, but it happened very suddenly. My kids, 25 and 21 are wrecks right now...I can't say I'm much better. Our relationship married was tumultuous, but we settled our differences years ago, i even like her husband...we were on good enough terms to witness our grandson being born....I hurt for my kids...I was 37 when I lost my mom, and that was too young IMHO...I'm Sad and I'm Tired, but I know she's not hurting in any way anymore....thanks for letting me vent....

Nichola Ann Barker, 8-16-67 to 3-13-13... You are loved and missed....

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My ex-wife passed away last night and... [View all] rppper Mar 2013 OP

May Nichola Ann Barker rest in peace. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #1

My sympathy to you and your family and all who knew Nichola livetohike Mar 2013 #2

When my ex-wife died I felt relieved for her children. Scuba Mar 2013 #3

I think feeling torn is not uncommon lunatica Mar 2013 #4

So sorry, rppper LiberalEsto Mar 2013 #5

Feel what you feel. LWolf Mar 2013 #6

Mixed emotions for sure. Bake Mar 2013 #7

So sorry TuxedoKat Mar 2013 #8

I'm sorry, rppper... Aristus Mar 2013 #9

My sympathies to you and your children Loryn Mar 2013 #10

damn...so sorry backwoodsbob Mar 2013 #11

That is all very understandable... and very complicated. Time will help sort it all out. nt agracie Mar 2013 #12

May she rest in peace bigwillq Mar 2013 #13

RIP to your ex... av8rdave Mar 2013 #14

peace and love to all who loved her fizzgig Mar 2013 #15

I am so sorry! RiffRandell Mar 2013 #16

You can feel good about feeling bad olddots Mar 2013 #17

Wow! I am truly flabbergasted! rppper Mar 2013 #18

I am so sorry. GoCubsGo Mar 2013 #19

I learned that my sons father is still important to me. erinlough Mar 2013 #20

My deepest condolences... CherokeeDem Mar 2013 #21

My condolences to you and your children mokawanis Mar 2013 #22

I'm very sorry for your loss. Coping and healing vibes to you and yours. MiddleFingerMom Mar 2013 #23

I am so sorry for you and your family. hrmjustin Mar 2013 #24

I'm very sorry, rppper Bertha Venation Mar 2013 #25

hard to lose someone you shared much of your life with rurallib Mar 2013 #26

My condolences. 840high Mar 2013 #27

I am so sorry - condolences to you and to your family csziggy Mar 2013 #28

((())) Arctic Dave Mar 2013 #29

So very sorry for you and your family... Sekhmets Daughter Mar 2013 #30

Hugs to you, the children and her husband...so sorry.. Tikki Mar 2013 #31

RIP very sorry to hear this. IMHO it's perfectly OK to still love someone even if you aren't... Locut0s Mar 2013 #32

I am truly sorry for your loss. She was a part of your life that will continue on auntAgonist Mar 2013 #33

Again, my children and I thank... rppper Mar 2013 #34

strangely ironic..... jbnr Oct 2013 #35

My prayers go with you gopiscrap Oct 2013 #36

Thanks... rppper Oct 2013 #37