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lunatica

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4. I think feeling torn is not uncommon

Reply to rppper (Original post)

Thu Mar 14, 2013, 08:19 AM

Mar 2013

It's probably something even your kids are feeling. Most people just don't talk about it because they think they're supposed to feel only grief and loss.

When my brother died I was devastated but I was also relieved that he wouldn't have to live as a paraplegic for the rest of his life. It would have been terrible for him.

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My ex-wife passed away last night and... [View all] rppper Mar 2013 OP

May Nichola Ann Barker rest in peace. In_The_Wind Mar 2013 #1

My sympathy to you and your family and all who knew Nichola livetohike Mar 2013 #2

When my ex-wife died I felt relieved for her children. Scuba Mar 2013 #3

I think feeling torn is not uncommon lunatica Mar 2013 #4

So sorry, rppper LiberalEsto Mar 2013 #5

Feel what you feel. LWolf Mar 2013 #6

Mixed emotions for sure. Bake Mar 2013 #7

So sorry TuxedoKat Mar 2013 #8

I'm sorry, rppper... Aristus Mar 2013 #9

My sympathies to you and your children Loryn Mar 2013 #10

damn...so sorry backwoodsbob Mar 2013 #11

That is all very understandable... and very complicated. Time will help sort it all out. nt agracie Mar 2013 #12

May she rest in peace bigwillq Mar 2013 #13

RIP to your ex... av8rdave Mar 2013 #14

peace and love to all who loved her fizzgig Mar 2013 #15

I am so sorry! RiffRandell Mar 2013 #16

You can feel good about feeling bad olddots Mar 2013 #17

Wow! I am truly flabbergasted! rppper Mar 2013 #18

I am so sorry. GoCubsGo Mar 2013 #19

I learned that my sons father is still important to me. erinlough Mar 2013 #20

My deepest condolences... CherokeeDem Mar 2013 #21

My condolences to you and your children mokawanis Mar 2013 #22

I'm very sorry for your loss. Coping and healing vibes to you and yours. MiddleFingerMom Mar 2013 #23

I am so sorry for you and your family. hrmjustin Mar 2013 #24

I'm very sorry, rppper Bertha Venation Mar 2013 #25

hard to lose someone you shared much of your life with rurallib Mar 2013 #26

My condolences. 840high Mar 2013 #27

I am so sorry - condolences to you and to your family csziggy Mar 2013 #28

((())) Arctic Dave Mar 2013 #29

So very sorry for you and your family... Sekhmets Daughter Mar 2013 #30

Hugs to you, the children and her husband...so sorry.. Tikki Mar 2013 #31

RIP very sorry to hear this. IMHO it's perfectly OK to still love someone even if you aren't... Locut0s Mar 2013 #32

I am truly sorry for your loss. She was a part of your life that will continue on auntAgonist Mar 2013 #33

Again, my children and I thank... rppper Mar 2013 #34

strangely ironic..... jbnr Oct 2013 #35

My prayers go with you gopiscrap Oct 2013 #36

Thanks... rppper Oct 2013 #37