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alarimer

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20. It's more than shyness

Tue Apr 16, 2013, 08:07 PM

Apr 2013

It may be more social phobia than anything else.

I simply cannot take a chance. On anything, come to think of it. But especially on people. They have rejected me my whole life for one reason or another. I just keep seeing the inevitable heartbreak happening.

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I don't see the point of going to the gym anymore [View all] alarimer Apr 2013 OP

Do it for yourself..not others.. HipChick Apr 2013 #1

I am laughing at the concept of me getting up at 5 am unless I absolutely have to. alarimer Apr 2013 #6

UGH! Nobody said you have to exercise first thing in the day... Quantess Apr 2013 #38

Your heart cares! Phentex Apr 2013 #2

Except I hate it. alarimer Apr 2013 #4

I can sympathize GaYellowDawg Apr 2013 #13

Do it for yourself, your own health & vitality... hlthe2b Apr 2013 #3

All the extra years come at the end, anyway. alarimer Apr 2013 #5

B/c you matter! Dash87 Apr 2013 #7

Yes, online alarimer Apr 2013 #10

I say this in a kind and loving way, Dyedinthewoolliberal Apr 2013 #15

I am incapable of taking the initiative alarimer Apr 2013 #18

are you incapable of finding Dyedinthewoolliberal Apr 2013 #33

If you're going to the gym to impress other people LeftofObama Apr 2013 #8

Six months of actively trying alarimer Apr 2013 #11

Maybe you need to stop trying and just concentrate on feeling better. LeftofObama Apr 2013 #12

Well not around this town, I won't. alarimer Apr 2013 #16

Can you move with your job? HipChick Apr 2013 #28

I would like that. alarimer Apr 2013 #45

Keep on exercising. bigwillq Apr 2013 #9

You are like the watched pot, that never boils! Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #14

That doesn't happen to people like me. alarimer Apr 2013 #17

And that one other person is as shy as yourself, no doubt? Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #19

It's more than shyness alarimer Apr 2013 #20

I do believe that's called "Self-fulfilling Prophecy." Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #22

This message was self-deleted by its author Moondog Apr 2013 #21

go to the gym because it is good for you. no other reason is needed. take care of yourself. Tuesday Afternoon Apr 2013 #23

I avoid broccoli, even though it's good for me. alarimer Apr 2013 #25

don't make me go all Nike on you ... Tuesday Afternoon Apr 2013 #26

It always happens when you least expect it ... at least for me. n/t RKP5637 Apr 2013 #24

Colloquially speaking mythology Apr 2013 #27

My job exhausts me alarimer Apr 2013 #29

I don't like every kind of exercise I do, Incitatus Apr 2013 #30

I understand. dawg Apr 2013 #31

6 months? I've gone 6 years....and more abq e streeter Apr 2013 #32

Now that it is finally spring I should get outside more. alarimer Apr 2013 #42

That sounds GREAT abq e streeter Apr 2013 #43

Find something you like tblue Apr 2013 #34

I've joined a few Meetup groups alarimer Apr 2013 #35

alarimer... femmocrat Apr 2013 #36

I've been in this particular rut for a while. alarimer Apr 2013 #40

That is a great plan! femmocrat Apr 2013 #41

I agree with femmocrat Lydia Leftcoast Apr 2013 #44

I'm wondering if you're in a vicious cycle: the depression makes you exhausted so you don't exercise riderinthestorm Apr 2013 #37

No doubt about it. alarimer Apr 2013 #39

Do they have water aerobics classes? Lydia Leftcoast Apr 2013 #46

This is a VERY small town alarimer Apr 2013 #49

That's a start, at least Lydia Leftcoast Apr 2013 #50

If you don't like exercise, it likely is you haven't found what you like to do, yet. Quantess Apr 2013 #47

I don't run outside generally. alarimer Apr 2013 #48

I went to a brand new club 30 years ago for a walkaround spiderpig Apr 2013 #51