Spinoff on first kiss thread-- your first love?

[hunter]

13. My first "serious" relationships were catastrophic.

My first girlfriend was a woman who was trying to prove to herself, her family, and her church that she wasn't a lesbian.

My second was a woman who'd claimed she'd divorced her fundamentalist husband and gone back to school. But she was only separated, and she went back to him once he'd accepted it was okay to have a wife who was more educated than he was.

Then I went back to first girlfriend who was still struggling. It was her habit to bring home these skinny street waifs (not surprising, because I was rather like that when we met...) and she'd convinced herself that having sex with women wasn't really sex. She married the last woman she picked up, married at least so much as was possible in the 'eighties. She could afford very good lawyers. We actively avoid one another to this day. We crossed paths once at a Silicon Valley convention and we both pretended not to know one another.

Those relationships never progressed beyond the occasional kiss, hand-holding, cuddle, and footsie under the table studying at the university library stage, but we did swim naked together.

My next relationship was with a woman who liked divorced older men with money. I wasn't either.

Then I met my wife. She's truly my first love.