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18. As a used-to-be-a-smoker I would say don't bother

Mon Apr 29, 2013, 03:02 PM

Apr 2013

She'll stop when she 's ready. Not before.

And if you think smokers don't know all about how bad it is you'd be wrong. It's an addiction, and it's one of the hardest to break. Every smoker has tried to quit at least once, and most of them have tried many times. It's tough.

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Coworker is about seven months pregnant and smokes like a champ [View all] Orrex Apr 2013 OP

Suggest that her smoking will harm her unborn child's health. In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #1

people used to do it all the time, My mother smoked through all her pregnancies and we all lived. hollysmom Apr 2013 #2

Back in the 60's - I smoked - healthy child. 840high Apr 2013 #52

The Doctor told my sister to cut down but not to quit. Lady Freedom Returns Apr 2013 #3

I wouldn't say anything. HappyMe Apr 2013 #4

If I were a co-worker, I'd probably not cross her on it. Aristus Apr 2013 #5

Popularity with coworkers never was on the top of my list. In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #8

I'd love to be in the room while you were tearing her a new one. Aristus Apr 2013 #17

I don't argue. I simply win. In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #31

I believe that... Aristus Apr 2013 #33

A boning knife In_The_Wind Apr 2013 #34

Heh heh. You said boning. Orrex Apr 2013 #54

my guy friend smokes MrsBrady Apr 2013 #58

Well, my mom smoked during both pregnancies kurtzapril4 Apr 2013 #39

And there were survivors or the nuking of Hiroshima, too. Aristus Apr 2013 #42

While I might notice and wonder about it... MadrasT Apr 2013 #6

Her doctor must have told her at every appointment sarge43 Apr 2013 #7

Countless babies have been born to smoking mothers...with no ill effects... Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #9

By that reasoning she might as well stop using a seat belt, too. Orrex Apr 2013 #12

I am not condoning her behavior... I am simply saying that we don't KNOW Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #14

So you're saying it's ok for her to smoke because I haven't given birth. Got it. Orrex Apr 2013 #20

No, I'm saying that without all of the facts you should be a bit less judgmental..... Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #22

Well, what's the limit? Orrex Apr 2013 #24

I'd give her as much leeway as you seem to think you have as God! Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #25

So I'm God now. I guess I'd better start believing in myself. Orrex Apr 2013 #26

I haven't noticed a shortage of that belief in yourself or your opinions. Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #27

So, you're free to judge me, but the pregnant smoker is above reproach. Got it. Orrex Apr 2013 #36

I think you're engaging in more than a bit of projection. Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #46

Well, color me humbled Orrex Apr 2013 #47

Happy to! Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #49

well there you have finally absolute proof that smoking while pregnant is ok leftyohiolib Apr 2013 #13

Where did I say that? Sekhmets Daughter Apr 2013 #16

My wife was a less than pack a day smoker OriginalGeek Apr 2013 #10

I sat there with a cig in my hand... Maine-ah Apr 2013 #59

i would mind my own business if i encountered such a situation - no if she asked.... leftyohiolib Apr 2013 #11

In the post WWII period kiva Apr 2013 #15

As a used-to-be-a-smoker I would say don't bother lunatica Apr 2013 #18

don't worry she knows everybody is thinking WTF? and giving her looks or talking behind her back Kali Apr 2013 #19

What if I leave nonsensical, pencil-drawn cartoons on her notepad? Orrex Apr 2013 #21

***snort*** Kali Apr 2013 #23

Tell her if she ever wants to quit smoking to come see you mnhtnbb Apr 2013 #28

get her a carton of smokes? datasuspect Apr 2013 #29

Or a lid of weed Major Nikon Apr 2013 #40

If you are prepared to offer her assistance, please do it dr.strangelove Apr 2013 #30

Honestly, can you possibly imagine that working? Orrex Apr 2013 #37

Of course it is bullying and meddlesome dr.strangelove Apr 2013 #57

I am a smoker, but each time I was pregnant, RebelOne Apr 2013 #32

I wouldn't say anything mokawanis Apr 2013 #35

That's about where I am on it Orrex Apr 2013 #38

I work like I drive a car. I stay in my lane. Tuesday Afternoon Apr 2013 #41

I think assume she has heard it all - including from her obstetrician Grateful for Hope Apr 2013 #43

One thing I thought to ask Grateful for Hope Apr 2013 #44

I may not be completely understanding Ilsa Apr 2013 #48

Ok. Grateful for Hope Apr 2013 #51

Hard to tell. Jeff R Apr 2013 #45

My mother smoked through all 3 of her avebury Apr 2013 #50

It's been seven months why bother? SpartanDem Apr 2013 #53

I think, or rather know, she is endangering her baby BainsBane Apr 2013 #55

I would wager that her kid will scream more than most babies Quantess Apr 2013 #56