and your wife. Been through similar.
If your house is paid for, then you have one HUGE hurdle out of the way. If its back taxes, you can negotiate that with em. Good advice posted up above too. Stay calm and remember nothing happens overnight, or over weekends (except possibly being served court papers.....lay low to be safe, don't answer the door: establish protocols with friendlies).
There is (usually) a process that is negotiable between calm minds that gets you through each day dealing with the authorities, and as long as you are in communication you can always stall for more days..... meanwhile you and your advisers work out the solution via counter offer. Be polite and professional while you figure out a counter strategy.
Just remember, being humble and begging only empowers them: don't grovel and promise things that you can't afford: One fuck up and they move in for the kill. Best of luck 
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