He is getting rid of me after 10 years.

[hollysmom]

30. before I got divorced

my husband was hyper critical of me, every thing I did was wrong - he had to see things that way to divorce me, if he were nice, he would not want to leave, I don't think it was deliberate, I just did not measure up to the woman he wanted 20 years younger and pure and good. After the divorce it was another story, she became the bitch and I was the angel who should care for him. But it was over for me, I had no desire to deal with anyone who could be so cruel again. Self respect, it is important. can't let someone else define you. it was a midlife crisis, but hey, not mine.

It was not the best marriage, but it was not the worst. After his mother died, things changed a bit and he tried to force me to replace her and then complained I was getting older. You can't be responsible for others psychological ills.

You can not let these people define you. Having friends helps. The support of friends has always helped me over the years. Turn to them,. true friends will help you.