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35. If she's not going through some kind of

Reply to JitterbugPerfume (Original post)

Sun Jul 21, 2013, 12:02 AM

Jul 2013

acute crisis, some mitigating circumstance, then you probably did the right thing in severing ties with her. If she's going through some kind of trauma and is open to talking about it, maybe you'll want to consider the relationship in its totality. I've had periods when I wasn't at my best (though I was never nasty to a friend) and I've found it's a rare friend who sees the good in someone through the bad times.

If she's as toxic as she sounds, then I'd steer clear of her and unleash myself from that bad vibe. I don't let negative people enter my space if I don't have to. Good luck, sweetie. Try not to worry about it too much. It will work out as it should.

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Have you ever dropped a long time friend [View all] JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 OP

Sorry you had to go through that and things got trashed or stolen. In_The_Wind Jul 2013 #1

It was worth it to get her out of my life JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #6

Who we really are inside eventually shows. In_The_Wind Jul 2013 #7

It feels like a heavy load has finally been lifted JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #8

Well not suddenly dropping outright, but slowly fading. Populist_Prole Jul 2013 #2

I used to just swallow hard and smile JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #23

YES... AsahinaKimi Jul 2013 #3

there are lots of teabaggers JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #24

I am so sorry to hear this. hrmjustin Jul 2013 #4

Now that's a sad one. nt No Vested Interest Jul 2013 #12

It broke my heart.n/t hrmjustin Jul 2013 #13

hrmjustin, sometimes you get a broken heart JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #16

Dropped and been dropped. Chan790 Jul 2013 #5

I swear, if this woman does not learn to relax JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #18

someone over 60 should know JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #19

Oh yeah, last fall, 1-2 weeks after the election. Ilsa Jul 2013 #9

The Obama election JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #25

I'm sorry to hear it, J.P. Bertha Venation Jul 2013 #10

Hi Bertha JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #15

um, yes hopemountain Jul 2013 #11

a bully can make life miserable! JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #22

I have recently had to drop the man who I've considered my best friend for almost 40 years. cliffordu Jul 2013 #14

I thought she was my best friend JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #20

NO one. I asked him if he wanted to continue our Salon - cliffordu Jul 2013 #26

I sure have. LeftofObama Jul 2013 #17

amen to that JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #21

Yep. rrneck Jul 2013 #27

I do not like being used like that JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #34

mine die off..... madrchsod Jul 2013 #28

i have had some do that too madrchsod JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #33

Of course dgilmour32863 Jul 2013 #29

Aw, that is too bad. uppityperson Jul 2013 #31

I can count my true friends with one hand and still have some fingers left over. Tuesday Afternoon Jul 2013 #30

Yes it has JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #32

If she's not going through some kind of tblue Jul 2013 #35

She is toxic, and I am through JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #38

this past thursday...a 20 plus year navy bud.... rppper Jul 2013 #36

in many ways I went to hell and back with her JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #39

Me, too; must be a Navy thing (not really). In '02 I had found a web-ring of my shipmates UTUSN Jul 2013 #41

Man, almost a mirror image.... rppper Jul 2013 #42

Yes Sherman A1 Jul 2013 #37

at age 72 JitterbugPerfume Jul 2013 #40

Better to have fewer friends/family than to be in a toxic relationship especially if PufPuf23 Jul 2013 #43

I can relate to the executor thing. narnian60 Jul 2013 #46

A will brings out the worst in people. nt raccoon Jul 2013 #47

Yep. MadrasT Jul 2013 #44

I have and it saddens me olddots Jul 2013 #45