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Bunnahabhain

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14. I refuse to even consider a co-worker as attractive

Reply to Yavin4 (Original post)

Wed Jul 31, 2013, 10:32 PM

Jul 2013

Do not get your honey where you make your money.

Train yourself on this. The higher up the org chart you go the more you need to internalize this. Repeat this as you move up the ladder. Make it clear you would never, ever make the sexy time with someone related to work.

Why? At some point, the higher up the ladder you climb, you're going to get an allegation lodged against you by someone you either had to discipline or someone that is butthurt because you were promoted over them. Lay the proper groundwork and no one will give the charges credence.

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What do you do when you're attracted to a co-worker? [View all] Yavin4 Jul 2013 OP

I dated mine Auggie Jul 2013 #1

I've fantasized about them during my special 'private time' cliffordu Jul 2013 #2

^^^This!^^^ Aristus Jul 2013 #18

I take him home and sleep with him. newcriminal Jul 2013 #3

Same here. I take him home and sleep with him. woodsprite Aug 2013 #28

I only have one coworker and she's an ex-gf. Chan790 Jul 2013 #4

Well, so far ... zbdent Jul 2013 #5

That has never happened to me. femmocrat Jul 2013 #6

I dated a coworker once and it didn't have a happy ending. Arkansas Granny Jul 2013 #7

I used to seduce them olddots Jul 2013 #8

I marry them. (n/t) noamnety Jul 2013 #9

My rule of thumb has always been: Never play where you get your pay. hobbit709 Jul 2013 #10

There's that old saying about not dipping your pen in the company's ink. The Velveteen Ocelot Jul 2013 #11

Nothing Generic Brad Jul 2013 #12

I never did anything about that, then later found out it was a Career Path for some UTUSN Jul 2013 #13

I refuse to even consider a co-worker as attractive Bunnahabhain Jul 2013 #14

Don't dip your pen in the company ink. Gidney N Cloyd Jul 2013 #15

I never date co-workers Xyzse Jul 2013 #16

Just admire from afar..seen way too many HR complaints HipChick Jul 2013 #17

Single - go for it. Married (or an SO) - stay the hell away. StanGr Aug 2013 #19

The one time I did something, I ended up engaged. Evoman Aug 2013 #20

Nothing. Nada. Well, maybe my fantasy life picks up a little. nolabear Aug 2013 #21

I shagged her rotten, baby. Denninmi Aug 2013 #22

Thinking... LWolf Aug 2013 #23

I feed him, pet him...scratch behind his ears.. AsahinaKimi Aug 2013 #24

absolutely nothing fizzgig Aug 2013 #25

There is absolutely NO co-worker Callalily Aug 2013 #26

it never ends well. it might crash right off, it might last for a little while okieinpain Aug 2013 #27

Well, if you're the Mayor of San Diego..... Jeff In Milwaukee Aug 2013 #29

Never fish off the company dock shanti Aug 2013 #30

I jump their bones. kwassa Aug 2013 #31

Or Mayor of San Diego Yavin4 Aug 2013 #32

True. kwassa Aug 2013 #36

Don't shit where you eat TorchTheWitch Aug 2013 #33

Ask her on a date Riftaxe Aug 2013 #34

In the past I've only once dated someone I worked with davidpdx Aug 2013 #35

Never happened, but reminded me of an incident. ConcernedCanuk Aug 2013 #37

I took him home azurnoir Aug 2013 #38

Man, That must've been one hell of a meal that you cooked him. n/t Yavin4 Aug 2013 #39