Would you stand for someone in a wedding you don't agree with?

[Lisa D]

3. I'm sure this is a difficult decision for you.

It's a tough situation.

You're right in that the odds this May-December romance will end well are probably not high. But then, there are no guarantees of any marriage ending well.

Also, it may be important to one or both of them that the baby is not born out of wedlock. And the fact is that he will be tied to this woman and their child for at least the next 18 years through child support, birthdays, graduations, etc..

I think if you don't support the marriage, then you tell him that you wouldn't be comfortable as a groomsman in those circumstances. You can still wish him well, send a gift, etc..

If I was getting married, I certainly wouldn't want someone in the wedding party who didn't support us. Maybe you can approach it from that angle--that he should choose groomsmen who support his choice to marry.

Good luck!