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Bucky

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28. I've had a friend marry a woman I didn't approve of. But it wasn't my marriage.

Reply to Xithras (Original post)

Wed Aug 7, 2013, 01:25 PM

Aug 2013

I say you make nice. Stand by your friend. You support him even if you don't support his decision.

Marrying the wrong person is hardly a life or death situation. Worst case scenario is probably they're miserable for a few years, she outgrows him, and they divorce. Then you're still his friend.

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Would you stand for someone in a wedding you don't agree with? [View all] Xithras Aug 2013 OP

I would not do it. Sheldon Cooper Aug 2013 #1

I think he messed up, and owning up to his mistake Xyzse Aug 2013 #2

I'm sure this is a difficult decision for you. Lisa D Aug 2013 #3

I'd thought about that. Xithras Aug 2013 #4

Stand with/for him. elleng Aug 2013 #5

I agree with your friend. newcriminal Aug 2013 #6

Sounds like it's moved beyond traditional ethics at this point. hunter Aug 2013 #7

Nah, it's good advice Xithras Aug 2013 #11

I don't get how this happens either. hunter Aug 2013 #15

honesty is always the best policy alan_phillips Aug 2013 #8

IMHO.......... mrmpa Aug 2013 #9

There's not much question about the paternity Xithras Aug 2013 #13

Okay................... mrmpa Aug 2013 #23

Be there for him, not the wedding itself azurnoir Aug 2013 #10

Is he going to require the girl avebury Aug 2013 #12

They're still working the prenup thing out. Xithras Aug 2013 #14

Hopefully, he will demand a parternity test BEFORE avebury Aug 2013 #17

Thanks for the advice everyone. Xithras Aug 2013 #16

It sounds to me like he needs a good friend right now. femmocrat Aug 2013 #18

The wedding party is there to support their friends Spike89 Aug 2013 #19

I'd bite my tongue and do it, for a long-time friend like that. nomorenomore08 Aug 2013 #20

The heart wants what the heart wants cliffordu Aug 2013 #21

Do it. Mistake or not, just be there to have his back NightWatcher Aug 2013 #22

Yes. Incitatus Aug 2013 #24

Hate to break it to you, Toots, HeiressofBickworth Aug 2013 #25

That's a little too harsh (and a little too certain) Bucky Aug 2013 #27

Absolutely Generic Brad Aug 2013 #26

I've had a friend marry a woman I didn't approve of. But it wasn't my marriage. Bucky Aug 2013 #28