Could you have a relationship with someone that you were not strongly attracted to?

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6. Your question and the situation are different

Or at least as you've described. It doesn't sound like he isn't attracted to his wife, just that he has the hots for someone else. That happens in long term relationships (or, as long as you're alive). I wouldn't be surprised if his wife had the hots for someone, too.

Physical attractions will come and go. This guy may wake up next week and wonder why the hell he liked other woman in the first place. She may be a ideal fantasy because she is unavailable. Wait till you see him or her barfing with the stomach flu, or complaining yet again about something you did, or enraged, or anything else that makes them look 'bad'.

If he had a relationship with her and never got over her, one thing. If he just pines, completely different. Nothing is going to happen between them again either way it sounds like, but the first was at least grounded in reality at some point. The second, not at all.

And the answer to your question...no. Been there, done that, not again.