Could you have a relationship with someone that you were not strongly attracted to?

[Fortinbras Armstrong]

14. What a remarkably shallow attitude

I've gotten crap here for this before but I will date the meanest most selfish monsters if they're hot, dress stylishly, enjoy nightlife, are brilliant and are good in bed. All the "we're compatible" in the world to go with shared interests and being a nice person will not cover for plainness or homeliness.

I once dated Cathy, a woman who was absolutely great in bed, and had hot looks as well. However, that was really all she had going for her; she was selfish, she was not very intelligent, nor was she really a nice person. I married a woman who is nowhere as good looking, and has a number of sexual inhibitions which limits what she will do in the sack. However, Sue is smart and really nice. Moreover, my sexual relationship with Sue means that we are making love, not just having sex -- and love is so much better than mere sex. If I were to meet Cathy and she were to offer to go to bed with me, I would turn her down without hesitation.

Incidentally, Sue and I celebrated our 40th wedding anniversary earlier this year.