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MrsBrady

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22. I met someone once

Sun Aug 18, 2013, 04:41 PM

Aug 2013

and I had never met him before except a brief conversation via email.

He asked me out for a drink. We went for a drink.
I thought he was a nice guy, but there wasn't any spark.

The next day we talked for a few hours off and on during the day...it was a Saturday....
and we did have quite a few interests and likes in common...also he was not a right wing nut job, so there's that.
I already had plans to go see some music and I invited him to come with me if he didn't have any other plans.
He decided to meet me for the show.
I was willing to see him again, but still...wasn't thinking along the lines of being attracted to him...
just thinking of a nice guy to go see some music with.

My point is, I guess, is that sometimes you can get to know someone a little and then it hits you...the attraction, I mean....
because...by the time we went for a drink Saturday after the show....I was crazy attracted to him.

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Could you have a relationship with someone that you were not strongly attracted to? [View all] Yavin4 Aug 2013 OP

No. Chan790 Aug 2013 #1

How do you define compatible? Sounds like you are compatible with Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #3

No. Not at all. Chan790 Aug 2013 #7

so then Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #9

well fortunately there are avenues for a gentleman of your discerning standards azurnoir Aug 2013 #25

yup this, i only have ever dated hot, the sexual attraction has to be off the scale loli phabay Aug 2013 #8

What a remarkably shallow attitude Fortinbras Armstrong Aug 2013 #14

I'm happy for you and anybody who finds what they want in a partner. Chan790 Aug 2013 #15

If you don't understand that you are going for the superficial Fortinbras Armstrong Aug 2013 #17

Other than looks... Chan790 Aug 2013 #28

Do you plan on living to an old age? eShirl Aug 2013 #2

Long lasting relationships tend to share a similar value system. I think this would be more Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #4

+1 Go Vols Aug 2013 #34

No. Denninmi Aug 2013 #5

Your question and the situation are different u4ic Aug 2013 #6

yes Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #10

That this guy is pining u4ic Aug 2013 #24

good to see you, u4ic - been a while - Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #26

Nice to see you, too, TA! u4ic Aug 2013 #32

My wife and I aren't really attracted to each other olddots Aug 2013 #11

I have no experience upon which to form an opinion BUT... Locut0s Aug 2013 #12

Sometimes the attraction fades but the relationship becomes a good friendship. In_The_Wind Aug 2013 #13

Exactly... pipi_k Aug 2013 #16

I think attraction can and should be more than physical alarimer Aug 2013 #18

I'm always amazed when there is no attraction and somehow through time and later hormones a bond jakeXT Aug 2013 #19

No (nt) bigwillq Aug 2013 #20

That what beer is for ConcernedCanuk Aug 2013 #21

Beer has been around A LOT longer than that. Neoma Aug 2013 #40

I met someone once MrsBrady Aug 2013 #22

Thank you for this. Yavin4 Aug 2013 #23

I absolutely agree, it happened to me as well. Sheldon Cooper Aug 2013 #38

Sounds familiar blueamy66 Aug 2013 #42

Not for sex. nt UTUSN Aug 2013 #27

Attracted to? 24 yrs and I just want to not wish I were dead, every day, which being in this SammyWinstonJack Aug 2013 #29

I've been married for forty years. UtahLib Aug 2013 #33

Well, that sounds terrible. Sheldon Cooper Aug 2013 #37

Probably, but when I was a young man I was sexual attracted B Calm Aug 2013 #30

Having things in common is not the basis for a future relationship??? DebJ Aug 2013 #31

I'm with you on that one. I thought having things in common was the BASIS of a good, lasting patricia92243 Aug 2013 #36

I prefer women smarter than myself, Go Vols Aug 2013 #35

No, but I find some physically attractive people repulsive. Dash87 Aug 2013 #39

Many physically attractive people abuse their good looks to fool people ConcernedCanuk Aug 2013 #41