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Xyzse

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9. That is a constant

Reply to Lady Freedom Returns (Original post)

Fri Aug 30, 2013, 02:13 PM

Aug 2013

Seriously, have to make yourself happy before going in to a relationship.

Can't expect another person to make you happy. If you're not happy and they are not happy, it just is a merging of issues that results in an exponential growth of drama.

Even when in a relationship, you have to be able to make yourself happy with your own separate activities. Otherwise, you'd tire each other out and create more friction.

Being able to find meaning and enjoyment in different pursuits outside of a relationship tends to rejuvinate and give more strength to deal with one, since love and relationships mean compromise.

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There are times when many must try to find happiness without love in your life. [View all] Lady Freedom Returns Aug 2013 OP

Take my word for it: it is possible. In_The_Wind Aug 2013 #1

K&R Carolina Aug 2013 #2

Another thread in the lounge reminded me The Velveteen Ocelot Aug 2013 #3

That was the one that got me to write this OP. Lady Freedom Returns Aug 2013 #4

I have lost that love twice, but it was my fault. RebelOne Aug 2013 #8

I think the reality is a little more subtle Xipe Totec Aug 2013 #5

yes, happiness starts from within and radiates outward. be happy because or be happy in spite Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2013 #6

I think that's exactly right. The Velveteen Ocelot Aug 2013 #7

That is the lesson that took me 40 years to learn: Xipe Totec Aug 2013 #10

That is a constant Xyzse Aug 2013 #9

I've learned to live without love, but I still need company. Boomerproud Aug 2013 #11

Then you need new friends Lydia Leftcoast Aug 2013 #12