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No Vested Interest

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120. My head/brain knows that my intentions were good, but

Sun Nov 24, 2013, 02:15 PM

Nov 2013

we hang on to certain regrets.
In general, I try to live life so that I won't have regrets re what I have or haven't done, but, as you know, all of life is not in our control.
My regret is minor compared to most described here, and, in general, there's much to be thankful for.
Thanks for your words of comfort, Sheldon.

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What's the worst "life choice" you ever made? [View all] Locut0s Nov 2013 OP

Failing to use my GI Bill education money until it was too late. Aristus Nov 2013 #1

You got some life experience out of those years though I'm sure... Locut0s Nov 2013 #2

I live in metro DC...I think that one is self-explanatory. Chan790 Nov 2013 #3

Worked there for a while discntnt_irny_srcsm Nov 2013 #5

'At's amore! Got it. trof Nov 2013 #10

lol been there, luckily i escaped to the country. loli phabay Nov 2013 #6

Not too crazy about it myself LiberalEsto Nov 2013 #11

So you went back to Rockville and wasted another year? (with apologies to R.E.M.) nomorenomore08 Nov 2013 #17

Been in Rockville area for 23 years LiberalEsto Nov 2013 #58

Yeah, I was just quoting a song lyric. nomorenomore08 Nov 2013 #78

Why do you hate DC? kwassa Nov 2013 #32

Well... Chan790 Nov 2013 #60

Dang... Xyzse Nov 2013 #70

I absolutely loved living in the district grasswire Nov 2013 #97

I lived in northwest DC Carolina Nov 2013 #115

Falling for a handsome charming man. Liberal Veteran Nov 2013 #4

! PassingFair Nov 2013 #26

. Fearless Nov 2013 #53

Deciding to move back home Coolest Ranger Nov 2013 #7

Eloping at 16 and not finishing high school. RebelOne Nov 2013 #8

Undoubtedly the first marriage LiberalEsto Nov 2013 #9

Working dead end jobs in college tabbycat31 Nov 2013 #12

I've made a lot of bad decisions. Thinking of the worst requires some reflection. Tobin S. Nov 2013 #13

I've always wondered how someone consumes that much *liquid* never mind the alcohol. nomorenomore08 Nov 2013 #19

It's consumed over a period of hours throughout the day Tobin S. Nov 2013 #20

Gotcha. I think my 24-hour record was something like 17 or 18 drinks (beer/hard liquor combined). nomorenomore08 Nov 2013 #22

I've been there... it is pretty much a pee break every fifteen minutes at the end of the night Taitertots Nov 2013 #27

I guess ultimately, my system doesn't work fast enough to allow for that. nomorenomore08 Nov 2013 #28

The human body is surprising effective at removing excess water Taitertots Nov 2013 #35

My first and only marriage. pink-o Nov 2013 #14

Not going to college right out of high school and becoming what I wanted to be-a teacher. Boomerproud Nov 2013 #15

Interesting. Chan790 Nov 2013 #18

I could write your post too tabbycat31 Nov 2013 #64

a lot of teachers end up quitting pretty soon Enrique Nov 2013 #57

I have no doubt that my life would have been very different if In_The_Wind Nov 2013 #16

Getting married�.. Grey Nov 2013 #21

Getting into "hard drugs" when I should've stuck to beer and weed all along... nomorenomore08 Nov 2013 #23

I took this job alarimer Nov 2013 #24

Going to a safe, easy to get into, cheap college. IrishEyes Nov 2013 #25

Not starting writing sooner and not chasing it with all I had. nolabear Nov 2013 #29

I made many bad decisions in my 20s. Vashta Nerada Nov 2013 #30

Where to begin? Art_from_Ark Nov 2013 #31

Joining the Army at age 19 back in the '80s. Bill Lermer Nov 2013 #33

Waking up in the morning. nt rrneck Nov 2013 #34

I don't necessarily assign value judgments to the choices I've made in my life Blue_In_AK Nov 2013 #36

That's how I feel... Phentex Nov 2013 #59

I no longer classify my decisions as good or bad - the choices I made csziggy Nov 2013 #37

Quitting my job the week before the Global Financial Collapse in 2008. wickerwoman Nov 2013 #38

I squandered over a hundred thousand dollars... Demo_Chris Nov 2013 #39

Please forgive yourself chris... Locut0s Nov 2013 #41

Thanks. Actually he WOULD have wanted me to feel guilty, but I get the point... Demo_Chris Nov 2013 #44

You know, it is fricking expensive just to get by ... Arugula Latte Nov 2013 #61

See my post below--I bitterly regretted leaving a full-time job to go into contract work. raccoon Nov 2013 #66

It's so easy to spend money and lose track of it. mnhtnbb Nov 2013 #113

Another reason I cite my first marriage AAO Nov 2013 #125

I did almost nothing during high school. I'm not sure how I graduated Taitertots Nov 2013 #40

My personal experience is that education wise HS means almost nothing... Locut0s Nov 2013 #42

That is what I tell my family and they think I'm nuts sammytko Nov 2013 #98

Started smoking at 16. Behind the Aegis Nov 2013 #43

Do you still smoke? Or have you been able to quit? Arugula Latte Nov 2013 #63

I still smoke. BUT.... Behind the Aegis Nov 2013 #82

Very cool! Arugula Latte Nov 2013 #83

Thanks! Behind the Aegis Nov 2013 #84

Too many to list davidpdx Nov 2013 #45

Those don't sound like bad decisions to me... Locut0s Nov 2013 #46

Those aren't the worst ones davidpdx Nov 2013 #50

I hear ya there... AAO Nov 2013 #128

Second husband. alphafemale Nov 2013 #47

If I ever get my life in order I wonder what type of husband I will make financially... Locut0s Nov 2013 #48

He would withdraw cash out of the ATM without telling me. alphafemale Nov 2013 #77

Getting an MBA. tblue Nov 2013 #49

Actually...(This got a bit longer than I planned on.) Chan790 Nov 2013 #69

Starting smoking at the age of 40 at the peak of my physical fitness. Monk06 Nov 2013 #51

Not continuing to walk out of a serious relationship Fearless Nov 2013 #52

I had the opportunity in 1987 to buy a fishing resort in B Calm Nov 2013 #54

...and probably paid capital gains taxes...and closing costs... ZRT2209 Nov 2013 #106

Not going to the college of my choice. AngryOldDem Nov 2013 #55

I started smoking at the tender age of 14. I still marvel at the life altering decision I made when myrna minx Nov 2013 #56

Not taking advantage of opportunities in high school annonymous Nov 2013 #62

Leaving a permanent job for contract work. Took me a LONG time to straighten out raccoon Nov 2013 #65

I've made a few, but I can honestly say I wouldn't do anything differently. sir pball Nov 2013 #67

Started drinking TrogL Nov 2013 #68

Having a baby. Myrina Nov 2013 #71

Never, ever MountainMama Nov 2013 #72

This message was self-deleted by its author Boom Sound 416 Nov 2013 #73

Not crawling buck up into the womb graywarrior Nov 2013 #74

It's never too late. Orrex Nov 2013 #118

It's a rare morning I wake up and don't make a bad "life choice." hunter Nov 2013 #75

Clicking on GD. KamaAina Nov 2013 #76

*snort* pinboy3niner Nov 2013 #81

Where do I start? RFKHumphreyObama Nov 2013 #79

Not taking the four opportunities I had to move overseas Lydia Leftcoast Nov 2013 #80

Smoking sarge43 Nov 2013 #85

Moving to West Virginia to "semi-retire" GladRagDahl Nov 2013 #86

I moved to Raleigh, and this is an awful place to live Digit Nov 2013 #93

I know what you mean GladRagDahl Nov 2013 #94

Marrying my husband LibertyLover Nov 2013 #87

Can you get out of this marriage? Arugula Latte Nov 2013 #91

Yes, but it will cost me LibertyLover Nov 2013 #92

Being born malthaussen Nov 2013 #88

I don't know, but it's probably something I'm doing now. dawg Nov 2013 #89

Moving back to the city I'm in now Rob H. Nov 2013 #90

It's been a series. HeiressofBickworth Nov 2013 #95

marrying (at age 21) a pathological narcissist grasswire Nov 2013 #96

In 1979 jrandom421 Nov 2013 #99

Going to a 4-year college sakabatou Nov 2013 #100

Not with me. The physical assaults ended when I quit high school for college. hunter Nov 2013 #102

How ill did you get, if I may ask? sakabatou Nov 2013 #103

I was living in my broken car pushed into the far corner of a church parking lot... hunter Nov 2013 #104

Tolerating bullies Generic Brad Nov 2013 #101

well at least in GD you can give them crap right back and nobody gets hurt! Gato Moteado Nov 2013 #129

FUCK. Being diagnosed with a 142 IQ and not going on to college? That's a start. cherokeeprogressive Nov 2013 #105

I'm so sorry about your daughter. grasswire Nov 2013 #108

Holy cow, having flashbacks to that California MGM program CrawlingChaos Nov 2013 #109

OMG sorry I didn't mean to dredge up bad memories... Locut0s Nov 2013 #110

Turning off my cell phone while at lunch with gal pals after a funeral of a classmate's daughter. No Vested Interest Nov 2013 #107

I hope you've forgiven yourself. Sheldon Cooper Nov 2013 #117

My head/brain knows that my intentions were good, but No Vested Interest Nov 2013 #120

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Marrying at age 18 Granny M Nov 2013 #111

To live with an abusive man raptor_rider Nov 2013 #112

Marrying an abusive alcoholic life long demo Nov 2013 #114

ditto. PeaceNikki Nov 2013 #116

Saying "yes" to Sallie Mae. Orrex Nov 2013 #119

Wrong grad school and advisor. GoCubsGo Nov 2013 #121

Not standing up to my crazy parent when I was a teen... Tikki Nov 2013 #122

Getting married (the first time). Keep you posted on the second! AAO Nov 2013 #124

My first year of college liberal N proud Nov 2013 #126

Not listening to the voice in my head whispering "no" to me NewJeffCT Nov 2013 #127

Getting married at age 17 instead of going to college. nt LWolf Nov 2013 #130

So, do you have an hour? hamsterjill Nov 2013 #131

I've been thinking about this for several days. mnhtnbb Nov 2013 #132