It doesn't matter what your mother tells you or how bad her wrath is - she isn't in charge of you anymore and you are free to live your life as you wish. Who cares if she doesn't like your boots? I know it's going to be one of the hardest things you've ever done (I've been there), but when your mother shows up and wants to see your new boots, stand up to her. Tell her what you did and if she doesn't like it so what. If she flies into a rage, so what. She will leave, you will close the door, and you will take care of your children.
It's not easy to get out from under a controlling mother but I know you can do it. It took me a long time to get to where what my mother says and does has no effect on me anymore. It's a wonderful place to be. 
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