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13. Congrats on school and graduating - I'm happy to hear that!

Wed Feb 5, 2014, 01:14 PM

Feb 2014

You sound like a great mom and you're going to move on and be self-sufficient for your family - if you need to move away then do it. Now you know that living close to your parents, although it has its advantages, keeps you from blossoming into who you can be. Our mothers sound so similar - doing something nice with conditions attached IS controlling. The best thing I ever did was to move 1500 miles away. I've raised 3 daughters on my own, at times with very little money or support but I have learned to do things my way without my mom (and my dad) looking over my shoulder criticizing everything I do. I wouldn't have had it any other way.

A ray of hope - once I refused to put up with my mom's 'conditions', she backed down and our relationship got better. The hardest part is being able to get to a place where you're not emotionally sucked in anymore and don't feel guilty about telling her to butt out.

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What would you do? [View all] laundry_queen Feb 2014 OP

Buy your daughter some new boots. mgc1961 Feb 2014 #1

I just want to make it clear laundry_queen Feb 2014 #2

Get a pair for each of you then. mgc1961 Feb 2014 #7

That would be ideal laundry_queen Feb 2014 #9

I recently bought my first pair of boots designed for motorcycling. mgc1961 Feb 2014 #11

Yeah I prefer to buy cheaper items because of what you said laundry_queen Feb 2014 #18

can you get a pair of shoe laces at that high end store.. mithnanthy Feb 2014 #21

Sadly no laundry_queen Feb 2014 #22

Boots are on sale now. You may be able to get a good deal... Walk away Feb 2014 #45

Can't buy yourself and your daughter each some $75 dollar boots? Iggo Feb 2014 #3

I thought about that laundry_queen Feb 2014 #4

Yes on this part. Xyzse Feb 2014 #6

Thanks I hope so too! nt laundry_queen Feb 2014 #17

You are an adult and you need to take care of your children. Avalux Feb 2014 #5

Thanks. laundry_queen Feb 2014 #8

Congrats on school and graduating - I'm happy to hear that! Avalux Feb 2014 #13

Thanks, I should be done at the end of June. laundry_queen Feb 2014 #15

Would it be possible pipi_k Feb 2014 #10

My daughter's feet haven't grown in 4 years laundry_queen Feb 2014 #12

boots for the kid first magical thyme Feb 2014 #14

:) thanks, yeah I figured it out before I hit post. Just needed some validation! nt laundry_queen Feb 2014 #16

if you want to be really sneaky... NV Whino Feb 2014 #19

I like how you think! nt laundry_queen Feb 2014 #23

+1. I've done that (and it works). However, I have another suggestion for you laundry queen riderinthestorm Feb 2014 #30

It says on the gift card it's not good for online - in store only :( nt laundry_queen Feb 2014 #31

Well that's completely bogus. Oh well. So take the sneaky route riderinthestorm Feb 2014 #32

I think that's the route I'll have to take. Thanks. :) nt laundry_queen Feb 2014 #35

Unfortunately been there, done that. Good luck nt riderinthestorm Feb 2014 #37

Send the card back to your mom... Wounded Bear Feb 2014 #20

Good one. laundry_queen Feb 2014 #24

I was being a bit snarky, but... Wounded Bear Feb 2014 #26

I think it's just laundry_queen Feb 2014 #33

I, too, would rather spend the money on my children than to buy something for myself. dawg Feb 2014 #25

You are too sweet. laundry_queen Feb 2014 #34

Buy a pair for you that just happens to be madmom Feb 2014 #27

We're not the same size laundry_queen Feb 2014 #36

Does your mom know this? I would buy for my daughter and madmom Feb 2014 #42

yeah she does. laundry_queen Feb 2014 #43

This IS a really horrible problem. elleng Feb 2014 #28

Yeah, my ex is the same too laundry_queen Feb 2014 #38

Buy a sock. Tell her where to put it. rug Feb 2014 #29

LOL that made me laugh. :) nt laundry_queen Feb 2014 #39

There are sites that allow you to sell/trade your gift cards blogslut Feb 2014 #40

Cool, thanks laundry_queen Feb 2014 #41

You can list it on Ebay TexasBushwhacker Feb 2014 #44