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MissB

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Mon Feb 10, 2014, 11:55 AM Feb 2014

Used to daydream in that small town [View all]

I don't remember when I first met him. He was always there. Growing up in the Dukes of Hazard era, he and his older brother were the real-life Dukes in our small rural town - red necks in a fast car, always just.this.side of the law.

Things got weird in middle school. I must've been in 5th grade, he was in 8th. I asked his friends if he liked me; he probably found that odd at best. I wasn't asking because I thought he was cute or anything like that - we were suddenly step-siblings and I just wanted to know if we were going to get along okay. And by suddenly, I mean that one of my teachers told me my dad had married his mom (dad was on the school board). None of us kids knew.

It was quite the shock to the system. My mother always made sure we experienced big city cultural events even though we lived in a very rural area. I don't think he could even spell 'refinement'. That isn't to be mean or say he was stupid - he just had better things to do with his days than school.

College wasn't in his future. His older brother went into the service. The tale of the older brother ended when the older brother OD'd. The circumstances were sordid and not worth writing about. I think a bit of him died with his older brother, as he never really found his way. He married, had a kid, divorced, survived.

He OD'd this weekend, leaving behind a teenager, friends and family. And a very sad step sister. That side of my family has suffered so many losses that I just don't know what to say to my stepmom.

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Just hold her. Tell her that you love her, that you loved him too. In_The_Wind Feb 2014 #1
What In_The_Wind said ^^^ progressoid Feb 2014 #4
Sometimes that only thing that we can do... Jeff In Milwaukee Feb 2014 #5
I am sorry for your loss siligut Feb 2014 #2
(((strengthbeams))) antiquie Feb 2014 #3
I'm so sorry. marzipanni Feb 2014 #6
Oh MissB I am sad for you. redwitch Feb 2014 #7
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