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Sissyk

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37. It doesn't matter how many times people

Reply to Puzzledtraveller (Original post)

Mon Feb 17, 2014, 11:23 PM

Feb 2014

tell you. It must come from within you.

In my early 20's a terrible, terrible thing happened to me. After I finally healed, I had been through 4 plastic surgeries that left several scars on my face. Most people don't even really notice them. It's not that they pretend to not notice, most of the time they really don't.

My husband thinks I'm beautiful, but he tells me I have inner beauty that shines through my eyes (I love that man). Young girls I meet tell me I'm cute. In their minds, that means I'm an old women but the sparkle and happiness shine through and make me their "old" girlfriend. Our single friends tell my husband that they are going to steal me from him. lol!

But, see. I know it's inner beauty. At 52, I'm more attractive than before the surgeries those many years ago due to maturity, happiness, inner strength, and peace.

You can find it too, Puzzledtraveller. Start with your eyes.

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Do you think you are attractive? [View all] Puzzledtraveller Feb 2014 OP

In retrospect, I was damned cute in my late teens and 20's. Gidney N Cloyd Feb 2014 #1

Likewise Puzzledtraveller Feb 2014 #2

I've been told numerous times I'm cute. Vashta Nerada Feb 2014 #3

Most of us do. IrishAyes Feb 2014 #27

I was in my 20s Kali Feb 2014 #4

That's me. Invisible... GreenEyedLefty Feb 2014 #22

I did not appreciate my youth. Raine1967 Feb 2014 #5

It goes deep Puzzledtraveller Feb 2014 #6

yes, i do. nt La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2014 #7

Hmmm... how to comment here??? hunter Feb 2014 #70

ha! thanks. I think women so often are expected to belittle their appearance La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2014 #80

Plus, you're right... Rhythm Feb 2014 #87

aww thanks rhythm La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2014 #91

Yeah... it's been a bit, hasn't it? Rhythm Feb 2014 #94

Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. Neoma Feb 2014 #8

and the light or lack of it. ;) loli phabay Feb 2014 #10

+1 geardaddy Feb 2014 #62

as ive aged ive become more so, always had a good physique and have what is considered a loli phabay Feb 2014 #9

I have no such illusions. hobbit709 Feb 2014 #11

I guess I'm pretty good lookin' for a fat guy. Tobin S. Feb 2014 #12

No, but I'm old so it doesn't matter any more. The Velveteen Ocelot Feb 2014 #13

You and me both! mwdem Feb 2014 #28

Yes, it's just my mind that's dirty. edbermac Feb 2014 #14

I was a hundred pounds ago. OriginalGeek Feb 2014 #15

On a good day, yes. In_The_Wind Feb 2014 #16

Let's put it this way: Aristus Feb 2014 #17

You In_The_Wind Feb 2014 #36

Oh god no!!! Iggo Feb 2014 #18

I had no idea that I was attractive and this apparently made me more attractive yankeepants Feb 2014 #19

I can't keep my hands off myself. rug Feb 2014 #20

I WILL KICK SELF-FEELING RUG ASS Skittles Feb 2014 #24

Geez, give me a minute . . . . rug Feb 2014 #25

Nope in fact I've been told by many I'm the opposite of attractive Arcanetrance Feb 2014 #21

Well what do they know? chrisa Feb 2014 #58

I saw the pic you posted the other day... i'd disagree... Rhythm Feb 2014 #88

Not by the normally accepted standards, anyway. alarimer Feb 2014 #23

not for you but for others, never pick your picture for dating sites loli phabay Feb 2014 #29

I hate all pictures of myself. alarimer Feb 2014 #31

thats why i say if anyone does do the online dating get someone else to pick your picture loli phabay Feb 2014 #34

Never thought about that but it makes sense. Puzzledtraveller Feb 2014 #42

It does make sense alarimer Feb 2014 #82

yup, you just have to look at any picture thread online, people always post really bad pics loli phabay Feb 2014 #83

As one who did online dating: that is excellent advice. In_The_Wind Feb 2014 #54

To everything a season... IrishAyes Feb 2014 #26

Just found a pic of myself when I was 25... pink-o Feb 2014 #30

I agree with your "bottom line" Puzzledtraveller Feb 2014 #41

No. Boomerproud Feb 2014 #32

No nt riderinthestorm Feb 2014 #33

Think it, yes...believe it, hell no! sir pball Feb 2014 #35

I get that Puzzledtraveller Feb 2014 #40

I've learned to accept it, and even use it to my advantage.. sir pball Feb 2014 #43

It doesn't matter how many times people Sissyk Feb 2014 #37

I was. laundry_queen Feb 2014 #38

I look presentable frogmarch Feb 2014 #39

I am physically repulsive. No really. KentuckyWoman Feb 2014 #44

Kentucky here also, Louisville. Puzzledtraveller Feb 2014 #45

Most of the time LadyHawkAZ Feb 2014 #46

If it's cute to have thinning hair that looks like bad hair plugs.... progressoid Feb 2014 #47

No so much, but I have a fairly good self-image. No Vested Interest Feb 2014 #48

I like what you said. Puzzledtraveller Feb 2014 #74

I would like to think of myself as a fine wine Art_from_Ark Feb 2014 #49

I think I used to be fairly attractive, Blue_In_AK Feb 2014 #50

In perfect conditions, I'd say yeah. Populist_Prole Feb 2014 #51

I am not attractive mythology Feb 2014 #52

I think I'm a bit above average. blueamy66 Feb 2014 #53

Great responses all. Puzzledtraveller Feb 2014 #55

Wouldn't change myself for the world, except maybe 10 lbs or so. Lol chrisa Feb 2014 #56

We definitley can be our own worst critics Puzzledtraveller Feb 2014 #57

I would be lying if I claimed I wasn't enveloped in a cloak of self-doubt. chrisa Feb 2014 #59

I've had enough boys and men tell me I'm ugly, including my father, magical thyme Feb 2014 #60

That's so sad, hermetic Feb 2014 #64

I like to believe, and sincerely feel that everyone is beautiful Puzzledtraveller Feb 2014 #69

yes. n/t Tuesday Afternoon Feb 2014 #61

To whom? n/t malthaussen Feb 2014 #63

Not in the slightest, but nor does it matter DFW Feb 2014 #65

You look great, but I know what you mean Puzzledtraveller Feb 2014 #67

I sure am... MrMickeysMom Feb 2014 #66

My fiance thinks I am too Puzzledtraveller Feb 2014 #68

There have been times in my life I've been hot... hunter Feb 2014 #71

Not now. Never was. 6000eliot Feb 2014 #72

Might find this interesting. NCTraveler Feb 2014 #73

I was waiting for this. Puzzledtraveller Feb 2014 #75

Really needs to be done by two different artists. NCTraveler Feb 2014 #76

in 2012 there was a sudden rush of people telling me I looked like Daniel Craig. sibelian Feb 2014 #77

Confusing indeed Puzzledtraveller Feb 2014 #79

i'm good looking enough fizzgig Feb 2014 #78

When I was in high school I had a boyfriend who thought I resembled mnhtnbb Feb 2014 #81

No longer. I am old and ugly. trof Feb 2014 #84

Used to be Generic Brad Feb 2014 #85

I'm slightly-below-average looking, but with a big personality Rhythm Feb 2014 #86

Im 6 foot 3 215lbs and have a ponch frwrfpos Feb 2014 #89

Yes (nt) bigwillq Feb 2014 #90

aint that the truth La Lioness Priyanka Feb 2014 #92

Aww. bigwillq Feb 2014 #93

I've been told plenty of times that I am, but Jamaal510 Feb 2014 #95

My hair loss has bothered me more than I would have thought. Puzzledtraveller Feb 2014 #98

Embrace your baldness, it's your "Solar Sex Plate" B Calm Feb 2014 #102

I don't give myself the right to judge myself MrScorpio Feb 2014 #96

I'm a handsome devil. Feral Child Feb 2014 #97

Oh hell yes I am! They call me "The Master of Love" B Calm Feb 2014 #99

Sometimes when I look it in the mirror w/ the right lighting JonLP24 Feb 2014 #100

The boys seem to think so. hrmjustin Feb 2014 #101