Forgiveness

[libdem4life]

6. Forgiveness is a "selfish" act ... the main benefit is for one's self and consciousness. I remember

the saying about Revenge ... taking poison and expecting the other person to die. I think it's pretty similar to holding on to anger and being wronged. You may not have had a choice in the situation, but every moment afterward, choice is made...to hold on, or to forgive. It dawned on me when I realized that forgiveness didn't absolve the other person for their actions. In fact, it had little to do with them. They have their own path to walk. Nor did it mean forgetting as sometimes that is impossible, depending on the situation.

The other benefit is that you don't infect other people with it any more, either. We did an exercise where we were to write down on paper 5 people we had problems with...in the order of intensity. Then they said, take number one...do the work...bitch and moan and struggle...but do the work. The rest will be easier.

As a couple of posts up ... An Inside Job.

Thanks for the post.