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hunter

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16. May I never be in that position...

Sun Mar 9, 2014, 10:24 PM

Mar 2014

... but I've no doubts heirloom jewelry will remain with family and I would never "pay it forward" to anyone without similar beliefs.

My definition of "family" will always be generous. The heirlooms in our family have great staying power in spite of the extreme dramas.

Children, nephews, nieces, even random adopted blood and non-blood younger generation non-lover or spouse type relatives get first dibs on the heirlooms. Otherwise they would not be "heirlooms."

Give an heirloom to a kid, grandkid, nephew, niece, long time housekeeper or care provider, that's a WIN!

Give an heirloom back to a bitter ex, that's a LOSS. You'd be better off selling it to strangers.

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If your ex asked for jewelery back after a divorce would you do so? [View all] irisblue Mar 2014 OP

ask. it is a gift so legal, i doubt it. but maybe, he will do the right thing. what do you think? seabeyond Mar 2014 #1

No. noamnety Mar 2014 #2

Exactly right Sanity Claws Mar 2014 #26

I think legally if it was a gift to you, it belongs to you. LiberalEsto Mar 2014 #3

I did just that after my divorce. Raine1967 Mar 2014 #11

Maybe the pieces don't mean as much to your ex? Could you offer to buy them? seaglass Mar 2014 #4

I had not thought of this irisblue Mar 2014 #28

Seriously you might be surprised at how little value the jewelry has. My mom's wedding band, white seaglass Mar 2014 #29

I had an ex pay me for a ring I gave her. warrior1 Mar 2014 #5

No. LWolf Mar 2014 #6

If they were pipi_k Mar 2014 #7

I agree ohnoyoudidnt Mar 2014 #8

If they were given as presents, I don't think owner can legally get them back. LisaL Mar 2014 #9

Legally... pipi_k Mar 2014 #13

No. Raine1967 Mar 2014 #10

A lot would depend upon avebury Mar 2014 #12

I would pawn them and count my cash Generic Brad Mar 2014 #14

My wedding ring was the FIRST thing I sold! IrishAyes Mar 2014 #22

I gave my exes anything that meant more to them than to me Skittles Mar 2014 #15

I have a really funny "ex" story like that... hunter Mar 2014 #17

I still have never seen that movie Skittles Mar 2014 #18

My experience was a lot like that movie... hunter Mar 2014 #20

May I never be in that position... hunter Mar 2014 #16

no orleans Mar 2014 #19

LOVE your sig line, btw. IrishAyes Mar 2014 #21

Pretty much what's already been said. Heirloom, yes. Otherwise, I'd keep n/t kcr Mar 2014 #23

I guess it depends on how bitter the divorce was NewJeffCT Mar 2014 #24

If it were something that was a family piece, I would give it back, if not, I would not dr.strangelove Mar 2014 #25

gifts are legally yours BainsBane Mar 2014 #27

Is there a N/A box to check? DFW Mar 2014 #30