Feral cat experts - I need your advice.

[Demoiselle]

6. I've got a feral momma outside, still. I feed her and she lets me pet her while she's eating. ..

I've put a kennel heating pad in a little house outside to get her through cold weather. All of her kittens (five) are very domesticated and live inside the house. I brought them all inside when they were kittens, and the transition to complete domestication was total. They're all inside now and completely calm and contented. It really shouldn't be hard for you to domesticate your kitten. Sitting in your lap is just the first step for her…
I would like nothing better than to bring my feral mama into the house permanently. Unfortunately she was all grown up when she arrived. She did spend the very cold winter inside, in her own private suite (it's a big old house) and I think she'll probably allow me to bring her inside next winter if conditions demand it. But when the weather is pleasant outside, she's not the least bit interested in coming into the house. She's called, because of her strawberry blondness, Nicole Kitman. If I can't convince her to come inside permanently, I hope she stays around for a long time anyway. Cheers and good luck.