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Phentex

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5. When there is so little time to spend with those you DO care about...

Thu Jul 3, 2014, 09:47 AM

Jul 2014

why waste it on those who aren't real friends? I think it's something we all have to come to terms with at some point. And I am not sure unilateral forgiveness is even necessary. Again, it's putting effort into something that may or may not be a worthwhile friendship.

My best friend told me I make excuses for people when I am disappointed by them (Oh, they are so busy, stressed out, have issues...) and I do try to give people the benefit of the doubt. But when those people don't step up and at least try to make amends, it's time to let go.

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Time for reflection.... femmocrat Jul 2014 #4

Thanks - you're right, of course. closeupready Jul 2014 #6

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When there is so little time to spend with those you DO care about... Phentex Jul 2014 #5

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you can forgive unilaterally without allowing them into your life magical thyme Jul 2014 #8

Yes, I suppose I have forgiven her. I acknowledge I'm at least as flawed as she is, closeupready Jul 2014 #9