My wife is a bit of a hoarder. [View all]
It's not to the level like you'll see on the TV show on the subject, and it's not something she does quickly. Our place is not dirty, we just have a lot of stuff cluttering it up. The last time I cleared things out I vowed to not let it get that way again. But I've been really busy the last couple of years and haven't really had the time to keep the place orderly, and I don't think my wife really knows how to do that. It just slowly gets more cluttered and if you don't stay on top of it, it will start to get out of hand.
I'm going to be off work today and my wife declared that I can clear out the place while she is at work- she gave me "permission." That's the way it has to work with someone who hoards. She has a really hard time with me clearing out the place without asking her first. I did that when we first got together and I think she basically had a panic attack.
I'm not sure what causes such behavior. I wish I could make her better in this regard. However, she is a very loving wife and I can think of far worse problems for someone to have. I can deal with this. I am also not perfect, of course, and I'm sure there is something about me that could use improvement.
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