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mrmpa

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17. I have a thought

Wed Jan 14, 2015, 02:37 PM

Jan 2015

Can your wife speak to her Doctor and be given the reasons she needs a therapy pet. If so and he writes the order for one (there are specifics) and you present it to the Condo Board, the Board under the FHA cannot disallow you from having that pet.

I am in a Condo that does not allow pets, however they turn a blind eye to those who have cats, and one resident has a small dog per his doctors orders.

Particularly with you working the late shift, she would seem to need the "company".

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My wife is leaving me. She hates the condo we bought. She tried to live without a pet. She feels [View all] diabeticman Jan 2015 OP

Sure you do. UncleYoder Jan 2015 #1

What? I can't sell this place because I will lose money. We won't beable to buy another house. diabeticman Jan 2015 #2

Selling your condo UncleYoder Jan 2015 #20

I don't follow. diabeticman Jan 2015 #21

sounds like you're being kinda weird. what's up with that? n/t orleans Jan 2015 #49

none of my business of course sweetapogee Jan 2015 #23

she said no. She doesn't want me to lose the place I fell in love with. diabeticman Jan 2015 #42

That's not a reason for a divorce BainsBane Jan 2015 #56

sorry about your situation diabeticman Tripper11 Jan 2015 #3

Rent your condo. Take the equity you have in it and go buy elsewhere riderinthestorm Jan 2015 #4

She saw how much I loved the place. She thought she could live without but I work nights she isn't diabeticman Jan 2015 #7

Is there a local animal shelter near you? KMOD Jan 2015 #5

That is a great idea. femmocrat Jan 2015 #8

SNAP!!!!!!!! mackerel Jan 2015 #38

Does it have to be a cat? femmocrat Jan 2015 #6

Has she thought of volunteering at a shelter? Rob H. Jan 2015 #9

For her it won't work. I work nights and having a cat gives her comfort. it sounds strange but diabeticman Jan 2015 #10

I think you should talk to her. HappyMe Jan 2015 #11

I can tell you. We couldn't have kids the cats gave her an outlet for whatever she needed. diabeticman Jan 2015 #13

Okay. HappyMe Jan 2015 #15

No, shedoesn't want me selling it. She knows this place all I want. She feels she is being selfish diabeticman Jan 2015 #16

As somebody else here suggested, HappyMe Jan 2015 #18

She doesn't want you unhappy. Curmudgeoness Jan 2015 #32

I can completely relate to your wife -- Hell Hath No Fury Jan 2015 #33

Dang Rob H. Jan 2015 #26

she just got insurance from her employer and we haven't had a chance to find a doctor for her. diabeticman Jan 2015 #40

i have a white noisemaker cwydro Jan 2015 #35

Counseling RobinA Jan 2015 #12

I am looking for senior housing that alolows dogs, hollysmom Jan 2015 #14

I have a thought mrmpa Jan 2015 #17

^^great idea^^ irisblue Jan 2015 #19

Good thinking! Tobin S. Jan 2015 #22

Brilliant idea mrmpa!! Tripper11 Jan 2015 #24

"... the Board under the FHA cannot disallow you from having that pet." Rob H. Jan 2015 #25

Great suggestion. I hope that works. In_The_Wind Jan 2015 #45

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with that. dawg Jan 2015 #27

Your wife's leaving you because she can't have a cat? Iggo Jan 2015 #28

That's the way it sounds. I thought that was a bit odd, too. nt Tobin S. Jan 2015 #29

I know sweetapogee Jan 2015 #46

Actually, I'd go the other way. Iggo Jan 2015 #47

LOL! NJCher Jan 2015 #50

Check your state laws oldandhappy Jan 2015 #30

IMHO, the lack of a cat is a symptom of deeper problems Kaleva Jan 2015 #31

We could not have kids. I am going to risk further scandal here but I personally am not comfortable diabeticman Jan 2015 #41

DM, you need to find her help Marrah_G Jan 2015 #44

Sounds like the two of you needed to "figure that one out" waaay long ago. WinkyDink Jan 2015 #52

I am so happy that I never had kids! eom roody Jan 2015 #77

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Texasgal Jan 2015 #34

I cannot imagine living anywhere that did not allow pets Skittles Jan 2015 #36

How will the association know? HipChick Jan 2015 #37

Therapy is a great start and if your wife won't go then I recommend you do. mackerel Jan 2015 #39

pets were an issue in my divorce. mopinko Jan 2015 #43

You are splitting over a condo and a pet? Packerowner740 Jan 2015 #48

So, you're saying your wife is choosing some pet she doesn't yet have, over you? WinkyDink Jan 2015 #51

Does she like kids? bravenak Jan 2015 #53

She loves kids she always wanted them. I will get her to a doctor. or do we need to see a diabeticman Jan 2015 #58

I had to see both. bravenak Jan 2015 #62

Is this some kind of performance art? LeftyMom Jan 2015 #54

I love it when the accused isn't allowed their side of the story. SammyWinstonJack Jan 2015 #80

I don't see how they can keep you from having cats Art_from_Ark Jan 2015 #55

You post a lot about your wife. LiberalAndProud Jan 2015 #57

Yes, I do. I am not good expressing myself and sometimes I am not good when she gets emotional. diabeticman Jan 2015 #59

I get so emotional baby KMOD Jan 2015 #60

Ha! NV Whino Jan 2015 #61

i'd go crazy without a cat so i understand it, especially if you dont have kids La Lioness Priyanka Jan 2015 #63

kids blackcrow Jan 2015 #64

If he's not into kids PasadenaTrudy Jan 2015 #65

Sounds like you should have discussed having children before you got married. redwitch Jan 2015 #66

I wouldn't have minded a kid but as we have gone on in our married life I am more comfortable diabeticman Jan 2015 #67

Will ADA support your having an emotional support animal? NYC_SKP Jan 2015 #68

Thanks I will look into it. But I have a feeling these neighbors will fight it. diabeticman Jan 2015 #69

Look, you have been given a plenitude of advice. KMOD Jan 2015 #70

have you never felt defeated before? ProdigalJunkMail Jan 2015 #71

Let's just say, my life has handed me many lemons KMOD Jan 2015 #72

This message was self-deleted by its author betsuni Jan 2015 #73

it's not funny at all... ProdigalJunkMail Jan 2015 #74

Some people get their jollies by... demmiblue Jan 2015 #75

I am NOT ignoring or not taking it. diabeticman Jan 2015 #81

My Father was a psychologist, he specialized in marriage and family counseling, he worked for mackerel Jan 2015 #82

We just moved to the area. ( I just moved back) I will look into it. Right now we did get my wife diabeticman Jan 2015 #83

you don't have to be the KMOD Jan 2015 #84

So so sorry. Can she volunteer to pet cats all day roody Jan 2015 #76

I left my husband after eighteen years of endless strife, directed especially at the kids. crim son Jan 2015 #78

It sounds like ohheckyeah Jan 2015 #79

Work from within to change the rules. SMC22307 Jan 2015 #85