Update on my wife.

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3. she is right - not having something to do

will make it worse. be kind, considerate - but encouraging. do not dote on her and do everything for her. but, do play lots of music - classical, oldies, soft jazz or the zen type, fill the house with good cooking smells, look at pictures, watch muppet movies - nothing jarring or traumatic or sad - eg no serious dramas.

and, do allow for silence at times. no darkness - during the day keep all of the shades open to allow the outside - in. as soon as the weather clears, sitting outdoors in the sun and short walks will also help. anything to keep her stimulated.

i know about this because i was there...the zoloft, xanax. my lack of life force and will was due to traumatic circumstances, loss - grief - followed by a physical and emotional breakdown. this occurred following 9/11, the end of my job, my father and my husband's deaths - all within weeks of one another. my dogs were my greatest comfort and sweetest companions.

and, be kind to yourself as well.