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auntAgonist

(17,303 posts) Sat Apr 11, 2015, 07:54 AM Apr 2015

When my time comes [View all]

No gushing about how wonderful I was, rather remember me as someone who tried.

No phony tears of sorrow, rather a smile for who I was.

No intrusions to my privacy, rather let me family mourn in peace.

Make no assumptions on what I'd like, or what I'd do, rather just accept I'm gone.

No ghoulish behaviour, not a single photo of me dying or dead, rather remember me as you last saw me, vibrant and alive.

If you found a place in my heart in life and I found a spot in yours, what more do we need?

Allow those that love me, privacy, support and caring.

aA
kesha

EDITED TO ADD: I am not terminally ill. I am and have been ill for some time now, but I'm not terminal. Just a thought I wanted to share.

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When my time comes [View all] auntAgonist Apr 2015 OP

In lieu of a "funeral" I want a "FUNeral" where guests can ... NightWatcher Apr 2015 #1

A FUNeral sounds good for the ones left behind! auntAgonist Apr 2015 #21

When your time comes I will remember the one evening we shared with friends. In_The_Wind Apr 2015 #2

What a lovely evening that was too! auntAgonist Apr 2015 #3

.... femmocrat Apr 2015 #4

Thank you! auntAgonist Apr 2015 #8

.../... Surya Gayatri Apr 2015 #5

That pretty much sums it up. Thank you for acknowledging that. n/t auntAgonist Apr 2015 #25

I'm terminal Omaha Steve Apr 2015 #6

I think of you often and wish you peace. auntAgonist Apr 2015 #7

... Omaha Steve Apr 2015 #9

... fizzgig Apr 2015 #10

I so agree with you. MuseRider Apr 2015 #11

Exactly ! auntAgonist Apr 2015 #13

I lost a friend recently FloridaJudy Apr 2015 #12

Thank you for sharing this Judy. auntAgonist Apr 2015 #20

You've always been a pain in the ass. rug Apr 2015 #14

I don't know what you mean by this. auntAgonist Apr 2015 #16

Perhaps it was Rug's way of saying "Please don't go for awhile" BlueJazz Apr 2015 #26

So odd and wonderful that you posted this, today of all days, aA. Raine1967 Apr 2015 #15

... auntAgonist Apr 2015 #23

I can accept that. bigwillq Apr 2015 #17

Thank you for posting this. As an old timer with health issues, I can relate. Paper Roses Apr 2015 #18

I have always wished I could auntAgonist Apr 2015 #19

I wish healing for you and that you continue your beautiful life. LaurenG Apr 2015 #22

am I the only one that doesn't want to be "surrounded by friends and family"? Skittles Apr 2015 #24

no In_The_Wind Apr 2015 #29

I hope I get launched into the cosmos. No tears for me. Live your life with joy and little sorrow. BlueJazz Apr 2015 #27

I told my sweetheart Jeannie not to post a picture of me in my obituary panader0 Apr 2015 #28

Couldn't agree more. Intimate photos of the dying, even in an obituary auntAgonist Apr 2015 #33

. lastlib Apr 2015 #30

I absolutely love auntAgonist Apr 2015 #32

I wish I could just be left to cycle back to the earth Kali Apr 2015 #31