When her time comes, my lovely mother wants me to write a 'funny' obit for her

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13. Condolences on your losses

And yes, the memorials are for the living and a good way to remember them, the good memories as well as missing them once they are gone.

My sister was very aware of her "position" in the community and though she never was a regular church attendee, I think she wanted people to think she had gone to a church eery Sunday. When she knew she was dying she reached out to a church but the pastor never bothered going to visit her until she was non-verbal - she died from glioblastoma multiforma and it took out her speech centers pretty early along. The pastor seemed more interested in impressing the upscale crowd at the service than providing comfort to the mourners. I doubt he got any converts especially when he didn't break his speech even when they were dropping from the heat!

I've told my husband I don't care what is done after I'm gone. I won't be there and if he or any survivors want a service of some sort they can pick what to do. If anyone wants, I hope they have a party and enjoy themselves to make up for all the years I haven't socialized and haven't gone to parties!