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uppityperson

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2. to answer, ewwww and she needs to get in touch with someone to help her
Wed Apr 29, 2015, 09:17 PM
Apr 2015

Is there a local domestic violence group, house, hot line? I imagine he'll throw a fit if she puts a password on her phone? Not knowing the situation, and they are often very complicated, make sure she has a DV number to call, even if she doesn't think she'll use it.

The final nail in one relationship was when he gave me permission to open read his mail, then demanded the same in return. Nope, bye.

It b very difficult to watch, make sure she knows where to call even if she won't because done day she may do so.

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He has no boundaries, is severely insecure, controlling and jealous. My vote: Leave quickly. Dont call me Shirley Apr 2015 #1
to answer, ewwww and she needs to get in touch with someone to help her uppityperson Apr 2015 #2
IMMEDIATELY! Throd Apr 2015 #3
Definitely a deal-breaker for me, even if they had a valid reason for being suspicious of me. arcane1 Apr 2015 #4
Immediately nt riderinthestorm Apr 2015 #5
let me guess Skittles Apr 2015 #6
Actually, he was a rebound from another crazy guy who used to beat her Suji to Seoul Apr 2015 #8
that is one fucked up culture Skittles Apr 2015 #14
5000 years of pariarchal horseshit and it is indoctrinated into their brains from birth Suji to Seoul Apr 2015 #15
5 minutes. elleng Apr 2015 #7
Her husband is terrified of me. I'm almost 8 inches taller, 100 pounds heavier and bench 360 Suji to Seoul Apr 2015 #9
Clearly she has to leave him permanently. elleng Apr 2015 #10
Now. n/t UTUSN Apr 2015 #11
Agreed Sherman A1 Apr 2015 #19
She needs to get out of that relationship right now. KMOD Apr 2015 #12
+1 nt steve2470 Apr 2015 #16
That feels like an invasion of privacy Generic Brad Apr 2015 #13
he'd have six feet of dirt between his teeth pdq if it were me fizzgig Apr 2015 #17
Guys can be jealous and do some really stupid things in the heat of the moment. crim son Apr 2015 #18
Your question... pipi_k Apr 2015 #20
Immediately. n/t LeftinOH Apr 2015 #21
be on guard, Suji to Seoul Skittles May 2015 #22
Insecure controlling macho asshole psycho -- she should RUN and never look back! Arugula Latte May 2015 #23
I would never let my SO know my phone password bigwillq May 2015 #24
How long? Less than a nanosecond. MH1 May 2015 #25
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