1. Don't know about the meetings. Even if your neighbors in charge are awful, please do not refer to women as bitches. If there is nothing in the by-laws about bird feeders/feeding animals outside, then don't even bother... this has nothing to do with having pets inside your condo. However, you may bring up the fact that rats are drawn to these kinds of situations. Who knows, perhaps you saw one. 
2. Nunya business.
3. Most condominiums have by-laws regarding what can be facing out to the street (signs, color of curtains, etc.). Check the by-laws. However, your wife is more likely to solidify their existing feelings than to bring about change. I wouldn't want to live near that, or even become involved in the drama (and I am all for teh animals).
4. IDK
I think you need to do everything and anything in order to ignore some of the goings ons at your condo, even if you and your wife think it is not fair. It is quite obsessive and is probably impacting her health.
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